The Bachelor Life

End of blog

2011-10-28T17:21:00.002-05:00

Haven't updated the blog in a while. It was fun for a while. We've moooved on to new projects.

The power of a makeover

2010-12-03T10:58:00.019-06:00

Why do wealthy girls/women look so good compared to regular women?

Are they just from a better gene pool?
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The answer is usually simply money.

They can afford maintenance (teeth/hair/nails/products), and they have women around them who can show them how to use these expensive things to increase their social value.

The above is an excellent demonstration of what happens when you take lower middle class women and process them with a makeover from a very high end salon. Six or seven hundred dollars for just the hair alone is what you are seeing here. Add the makeup/clothes/etc and you're into thousands.

Let what you're seeing sink in. Now ask yourself how much different YOU would look if you went to an actual upscale mens' salon instead of the $12 haircut place on the corner.

Signs you are with the right girl

2010-07-08T16:36:00.003-05:00

The end goal of dating is to find someone you truly, deeply, madly love, forever.

Things like this area a strong indicator you are with such a girl. Pay attention kids, this girl rocks.

Friend Zone

2010-06-17T12:33:00.002-05:00

TBL wine list

2010-06-09T14:09:00.003-05:00

Here is a list compiled for us by a wine afficionado. They are all excellent (85+ points), and all under fifteen dollars.

This should be your go to price range and quality for a decent wine to be shared on a date. This is both for when she comes over and you both make dinner, or for you to take to her place.

These are current as of 6/9/10. They skew heavily red, but keep in mind some women strongly prefer white. Red with dark meat, white with white meat.

Vina bisquertt syrah colchagua valley la joya reserve 2008 - 90 points - $11

Darenberg. The stump jump red south australia 2008 - 90 points - $11

Vinos de la tribu toro auroch 2006 - 90 points - $12

Charles and charles. Volume II rose columbia valley - 90 points - $12

Chateau ste. Michelle chardonnay columbia valley 2008 - 90 points - $13

Domaine des escaravailles. Cotes du rhone les sablieres 2007 - 90 points $14

Columbia crest chardonnay columbis valley grand estates 2008 - 89 points - $11

Chateau ste. Michelle. Syrah columbia valley 2006 89 points - $13

Bodega norton. Malbec mendoza barrel select 2007 - 89 points $14

Houge shiraz columbia valley 2007 - 88 points $10

St kilda shiraz south eastern australia 2008 - 87 points - $9

Montgras. Cabernet sauvignon colchagua valley reserve 2008 - 87 points $12

Finding your joy

2010-06-03T12:36:00.002-05:00

Haven't updated the site in a while.

Been studying my ass off for engineering certs at work.

Decided to start back with something important.

You HAVE to find joy in your life. It doesn't matter what that is, but you have to be true to yourself. It doesn't have to be one thing, it can be many smaller things, but finding love and joy can't be dependent on some girl or guy. It has to be IN YOU. It has to be PART OF YOU.

When you have real inner joy, dating takes a back seat. It's merely a fun thing you have going on in addition to everything else.

We promote kiteboarding because it's so pure. Your joy can be anything. Feel free to email us with what you do and let us know.

Here's a great video.

Kiteboarding Joy

Women's Magazines

2010-05-07T10:08:00.001-05:00

This made me laugh. Thought you'd like it too.

Credit cracked

Baby Daddy Flowchart

2010-05-06T17:12:00.003-05:00

As a public service, here is Holy Taco's paternity flow chart.

A Strong Man

2010-04-30T15:21:00.007-05:00

Many people believe you have to be aggressive or dominating to be an alpha, a leader, a strong man.

This isn't always the case. Here's a truly good man who lead by example. He was a Marine sniper, and Vietnam veteran, and a good man.

From Mr. Rogers during his lifetime achievement award acceptance award speech:

He made a small bow and said into the microphone, "All of us have special ones who have loved us into being. Would you just take, along with me, ten seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are? Ten seconds of silence." He then lifted his wrist, looked at the audience, looked at his watch, and said, "I'll watch the time." There was, at first, a small whoop from the crowd, a giddy, strangled hiccup of laughter, as people realized that he wasn't kidding, that Mister Rogers was not some convenient eunuch, but rather a man, an authority figure who actually expected them to do what he asked. And so they did. Once second, two seconds, seven seconds -- and now the jaws clenched, and the bosoms heaved, and the mascara ran, and the tears fell upon the beglittered gathering like rain leaking down a crystal chandelier. And Mister Rogers finally looked up from his watch and said softly, "May God be with you." to all his children.

Fred Rogers. RESPECT.

Credit: iStig for the link

Man enough to date a tall woman?

2010-04-29T15:51:00.016-05:00

Saw this great article over at cnn.com written by a tall woman on dating her. Tweaked it. Read below.

Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. One of the rarest, and most rewarding, is a tall woman.

Their long, beautiful bodies are the thing of mens' dreams and fantasies. They look good in anything, but when they dress to enhance their long legs, common men literally walk into walls and lose all ability to think or function.

It takes a lot of self confidence for a man to date a tall woman. If you don't have self confidence, you probably won't survive the first few interactions.

If you have your inner game on lock, you should truly know that most people have the same basic needs and desires. They want to have fun, feel good, and be with someone attractive that brings value to their lives.

This is no different for stunningly beautiful women.

Don't change the way you talk to someone based on how they look. Talk to them like a regular person, because that's who they are. If you are not truly self confident, then you are in for a short, miserable relationship. Tall women typically have tall friends. This includes guy friends. You are wasting your time if you keep any type of insecurity in yourself. She is with YOU, not THEM, because she likes WHO you are and how you make her FEEL . Nothing is as big a turnoff to a girl as having to constantly reassure a weak, insecure guy.

Keep this in mind as well. When you show up with that tall, stunningly beautiful woman on your arm, everyone is thinking the same thing: "How the hell did he pull THAT?" Everyone is going to assume it's money, or power, or whatever they want to make up. The truth is usually simply that they have fun together, and he's a confident man that understands she's a normal person who just happens to be tall.

If you don't make it a big deal, it's not a big deal. Relax! If you want to keep around some boots to even you guys out, it should be simply as a courtesy to her to help her not feel awkward in social situations, not to calm your fragile ego. She's fine with the fact she's tall. Let it be fine for you.

As kids, tall girls get teased for their height. Not everyone is 5'10 in the eight grade. If you love her height, let her know! Don't make a spectacle of it. She'll love you for it.

Now get out there, and go get the tall, beautiful, girl of your dreams.

Chances are she's waiting for you -- with her heels on.

Mailbag: I'm a girl, how can I upgrade MY dating life?

2010-04-29T12:52:00.011-05:00

Saw a fantastic post over at reddit.com about how a woman can upgrade their dating lives. I've tweaked it a bit, but it's gold. Major props to intjpua.
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Girls have a lot of options, even if they aren't beautiful.

Note that a lot of this stuff applies to men, too.

Get fit. If you aren't in good shape, start getting there. Eat right, workout (lift weights for 20-30 minutes 3 days a week, do an hour of cardio the other days), and stop watching TV and/or sitting on the computer.. Cancel your cable. The average person spends hours watching TV every day. That shit is like crack.

Eat Better. This is actually very easy and doable. Fast food is no longer a part of your life. Period. At all. Just stop it. You should have to think back to remember the last time you ate out, and WAY back to remember the last fast food you ate. If you keep eating it, you might as well just give up, because are wasting your time. It's shit and you know it.

This goes for Soda as well. It's not a part of your life. At all. Ever. You drink water and sometimes ice tea now. If you get coffee, it's real coffee. Not frapa-mocha-whateverthefuck. Within two to three weeks, your body will flush all the high fructose corn syrup out of your system and that stuff will start to taste like the garbage it is to you. You will drop weight like you've never seen in your life.

Lunch is now lean cuisine or Healthy choice. They are in the freezer section of the grocery store. You don't go out for lunch at work every day any more. You get your meal out of the freezer in the break room, you heat it, and eat it. You can have some pretzels or wheat thins in the afternoon for a snack. If you are just starving the first week or two, eat one Healthy Choice (the whole meal is only 300calories) about 11am, and another around 2pm. Within two weeks your stomach will have shrunk and one will do you. You will be dropping 10-12 pounds a month if you eat like this and work out.

Get outside for fun activities, and you'll dramatically increase your odds of meeting someone awesome.

For high quality men, fitness is a primary qualification for girls. They're in pretty good shape, eat healthy, work out, live an active lifestyle, etc. They expect the same from the girls they date. They're just not attracted to big girls, and without physical attraction, there's no chance of an intimate relationship.

If you want a quick jump start on fitness, get the P90x or Insanity cardio program DVD's. They really, really, for real work. In two months your will transform your body. And they are fun. There is zero reason to be in an expensive gym and waste time driving there, and other bullshit. Get your company computer nerd to burn some copies of it if your poor, or spend the lousy $99 and get the real deal. This will get you the body you want faster and cheaper than a personal trainer.

Get clean and neat. Whiten your teeth, get braces if you need them (Invisalign are pricey, but aren't extremely visible while you have them). Nothing messes up a cute girl like a missing tooth or jacked up grill. It doesn't have to be perfect, just normal.

Make sure you clean up before going out, even if it's just for the grocery or drug store. There may be men there.

Dress nicely. Honestly assess the state of your clothes (check with a friend who seems to have an abundance of great men in her life, if you aren't sure what you're doing wrong or what you should do differently).

Be well-groomed. Have a nice, current, hairstyle? Many men say they prefer long hair, however a good flattering haircut is better than long hair that doesn't suit your face and body. Check with that friend again on your hair. Go to a good stylist (find one on Yelp) and pay the $75-$150 it takes to get a really good haircut (cheaper places can probably keep that haircut in shape for the following few months).

Keep your legs shaved and your lady parts ready for action; your mental state is affected by lots of little details, and if you feel "unavailable" because of hair in places you don't want hair, you'll give off that vibe in subtle ways. It will hurt your chances.

Makeup. Guys vary wildly in what kind of makeup they like on a girl. If you don't like wearing makeup, shoot for one of the guys that doesn't like a lot of makeup (we're out here; I hate big waxy looking red lips, heavy blush and eyeliner, etc.). But, even natural beauty is improved with a little makeup. If you don't know makeup, go get some lessons from the girls at the department store counter.

So, those are the "get hot" aspects of attracting men...but you can also be more assertive without being weird.
I went on a social bike ride a recently, and one girl there was absolutely awesome in her assertiveness. She'd pull up beside someone she hadn't talked to, and say, "Hey, shy guy. What's your name?" It's no coincidence that she's happily married, and the center of a huge social circle. She was a total alpha chick, and men totally dug her for it. If you see a guy you like the looks of, and he's not being very talkative, this is an awesome way to talk to him.

Hang around fun girls that aren't bitches or depressing. You are a composite of your friends. If you surround yourself with high quality, fun, active, supportive, positive energy friends, you are jumped way ahead in your quest. These are the people you want to be around. They attractive positive energy,and active, high quality men.

Be fun when you're out with your friends. Sit in your friends' laps, make racy jokes, smack each other on the ass, etc. There are tons of reasons for this...it's an opening for guys to start joking and talking to you, it's sexy, and turns guys on. It also keeps you in the right frame of mind for playing with guys when they come along. You want to be playfully teasing guys from the moment you start feeling some attraction. This doesn't mean the drunk party girl. You can be classy AND fun.

As a greyhound to a rabbit, guys love the chase...but you need to shake your little bunny tail now and then to keep them chasing.
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Opportunity

2010-04-29T11:46:00.006-05:00

If you read the post below on winning back an ex, then you are probably not in the right frame of mind.

You should not be looking backwards. You should be looking AROUND.

You want happiness? GO GET IT. Can't find a girl that makes you happy? Can't find one that's cute/smart/classy/intelligent enough? OPEN YOUR EYES. You are literally swimming in them.

Roissy recently wrote an outstanding piece on opportunity. Read it. This is how it really works.

Opportunity article

Today we’ll accompany an average American, SWPL Six-pack, on his daily routine as he makes an effort to meet a number of attractive women that he sees.

It’s a Saturday. He gets up in the morning, showers, dresses and walks to the Starbucks down the block. While waiting at an intersection for the light to change, he notices an attractive girl standing next to him. He pivots to say something to her.

“I’ve got thirty seconds before the light changes to flirt with you. Ready?”

On the sidewalk in front of the Starbucks, he passes another attractive girl.
“Excuse me. Could you tell me where the nearest Starbucks is?”

In Starbucks, waiting in line, he speaks to the attractive girl standing ahead of him.
“Ever notice how fast the Starbucks barristas work in the morning? They must take a triple shot before their shift.”

Outside, holding his drink, he walks to the post office to drop off a letter. On the sidewalk an attractive girl walks toward him.

"Hi!”

At the post office, an attractive girl puts a letter in the mailbox.
“Be careful, that box sends all love letters to my address.”

Leaving the post office, he walks to a clothing store to make some purchases. On the walk over, nine attractive girls pass by him.
“Hi.”
“Hi!”
“Hi there.”
“Hey.”
“Good morning!”
“Excuse me. Where is the nearest dog grooming shop?”
“Hi.”
“Hi.”
“Hello!”

At the store, a girl hovers around the sunglass display.
“You’ll want sunglasses that hide which guys you’re checking out. Don’t worry, you don’t make me self-conscious.”

In the lingerie section, an attractive girl rifles through bras.
“I need to buy something for Mother’s Day. Too frilly?”

Back on the sidewalk, he stops at a street vendor to buy a warm pretzel. An attractive girl is there as well.
“I know this pretzel. I think this guy shops at Costco and marks up 1,000 percent.”

He goes home to get his frisbee. He plans to meet a friend at the local park. On the way home, five more attractive girls ping his visual field.
“Hi.”
“Hi.”
“Hi!”
“Hi.”
“Happy Saturday!”

On the walk to the park, two more attractive girls. He pretends to throw the frisbee to them.
“Catch!”
“Catch! Ohh, too slow.”

At the park, he and his friend spend more time ogling the girls than tossing the frisbee. A throw goes astray and lands near the feet of an attractive girl.
“I had my buddy throw it near you on purpose. I’m smooooooth.”

After playing frisbee, he goes to dinner at a local cafe with his friend. An attractive girl serves them.
“I heard the waitresses here are good flirters. Ok, let’s see what you’ve got.”

Dinner ends, and his friend leaves. He goes to Whole Foods to pick up some smelly cheese and grass-fed beef for the week. On the walk to Whole Foods, three attractive girls and one incredibly ugly girl pass him.
“Hi.”
“Hi!”
“Hi.”
*silence*

Loitering in the cheese section, he notices one of his exes is there. He sidles up to an attractive girl rummaging through the assortment of goat cheeses.
“Hey, I just noticed my ex is here. Right over there. I’m going to ask you a favor. Pretend you’re flirting with me so I can make her jealous. I’ll return the favor by flirting back. Trust me, you’ll thank me.”

Back at home, cutting off a hunk of cheese and downloading new Yeah Yeah Yeahs music, he makes plans to hit the local social venue with his buddies. Once arrived, he orders drinks from the attractive girl bartender.
“Don’t think this means we have something going on.”

A few hours socializing and drinking, he has met and spoken with six attractive girls. Walking home later that night, he steps next to an attractive girl at an intersection.
“I like your hat. Very trendy right now.”
He goes home to sleep, a full day behind him.
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The above did not actually happen. Or, more to the point, it is not an accurate depiction of a day in the life of the typical, average American man who wishes he could meet more women. The number of attractive girls he saw on that Saturday is realistic, but the number of those girls he spoke to is, woefully, not.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t have the wittiest opener, or the smoothest delivery. If you open your mouth and say something as benign as “Hi” to thirty-eight attractive girls on a single Saturday, you will have rocketed yourself ahead of 99% of men who passed by those same girls and said nothing. You would have brought yourself closer to sex with at least one of those girls that wouldn’t have been the case had you walked by them silently, cursing your inaction once the moment evaporated.

Now add in a little game. You’ve just hurdled 99.9% of men who pass by those girls without muttering a word on that typical, “boring” Saturday.
Opportunity is everywhere for those with the eyes to see.

Mailbag: Winning back an Ex

2010-04-29T10:35:00.003-05:00

We get a lot of mail here at TBL.

Some of the most common are from men looking to get back an ex. Can it be done? Usually. Should it be done? No.

I know you're special, and she's special, and you guys had something more amazing than anyone else ever has or will.

After you've broken up, you are both different people. You may not be able to tell, but you are.

You are still in love with the person you fell in love with. She's not that person anymore. Neither are you.

If you haven't gone through this process enough to understand the above as truth, then you'll unfortunately have to so that you can mature emotionally as a man.

So, here's the process that actually works. It will hurt. You will grow. Be careful what you wish for.

1) Let them go

2) Start going out and making new friends

3) Completely cut contact. No helping, or checking on them, or anything. Cold complete turkey

4) Improve yourself.

A) Start hitting the gym. When you start getting in shape, it pumps endorphins into your body, making you happier and a cooler person to be around

B) Get outside. Force yourself to go out at LEAST three times a week. Go get a beer. Go dancing. Go to the lake. Walk your dog at the dog park.

C) CALL (don't text) every friend you have and invite them out to do something. See what they are up to. Help them out with something. Go over their house. DON'T piss and moan and talk about your ex. Talk about anything else.

D) Go buy some new clothes. If you've been in a relationship for a long time, you are out of style. Yes, you.

E) If you're a guy, check out some dating websites to get your game back in tune.

F) When you haven't talked to your ex in a couple months, they WILL text you and wonder why you haven't called them. This is what you want. Just play it cool and have a lot going on. Don't PRETEND and bullshit having a lot going on, ACTUALLY for real have a lot going on. This is the most attractive possible thing you can do.

G) Be careful what you wish for. The first day or two of your ex wanting you back will make you feel good and like an answer to a prayer. Day three will remind you why you broke up. By the end of week one with them back you'll remember allllll their old bullshit that drove you nuts. If you have sex, it'll be great, but not as great because you'll be thinking about what everything means. Is this gonna work? What did they say to wreck you to their fam/friends/social circle? You'll more than likely wonder what the hell you are thinking.

You will probably dump them.

Good luck. :)

Men's Suits for Under a Thousand

2010-04-19T16:54:00.004-05:00

Every man over the age of twenty-one should own a suit. A good one.

We all have the ill fitting horror that your mom took you shopping for so you could go to that one thing. Burn it. Or better yet, donate it.

You don't have to be a millionaire to look like one.

Here are some looks you can build that won't break the bank, but will catapult you forward in your career and self confidence. A suit is something you have to invest in.

New York Times Article on Stylish, Inexpensive Suits

Remember, when in doubt when comes to men's fashion, go with classic over trendy.

And don't forget the Shoes

There's a reason Frank still looks good.

Improving your life

2010-04-16T12:55:00.006-05:00

Improving your life has to be a total effort.

Learning to meet people isn't enough. You have to improve who you are. This includes changing what you do.

Women CRAVE a man that is active and outdoors. They want to be that themselves, so they are looking for a man who lives that lifestyle and will bring them into that world.

You want to be doing things that are fresh and exciting and will make that girl "God, I can't WAIT to tell my girlfriends I met this cool guy that's into "insert active lifestyle activities here".

One of the most fun, exhilarating things you can get into is the new sport of kitesurfing. Not only is it reasonably priced to get into ($1200-1500ish for full size kitesurfing. $150ish for trainer kites, learning), it's also something you'll truly love and have a passion for.

It's win/win on a number of levels.

A) You are out in the sun getting a tan

B) You are outside

C) You are surrounded by other healthy, active guys. This means instant social circle.

D) You aren't sitting around shitty gas stations with the bike or car club.

E) You are teaching her something, and bringing her into a world she's never experienced.

F) It's hardcore cardio, which means you're getting into and maintaing great shape.

G) You get in touch with nature and yourself. It's all on you. Succeed or fail, crash hard, or touch the face of God.

H) Make this your world. Kitesurfing

You don't have to live somewhere tropical. We live in the middle of Oklahoma City, and kite surf at the city lake. It's AMAZING and there are thousands of people there every nice day watching and wishing they were flying with us.

If you can't afford to go full pop into it, go order a two meter trainer kite and take it to the park/lake. As you learn to fly it, and start having fun with it, you'll notice people coming up and opening YOU. Girls, guys, families, everyone. It's amazing to watch these fly, and everyone (including beautiful, fit, outdoorsy girls) will want to learn.

It's up to YOU to decide who to have friendly conversations with, and who to spend the afternoon teaching.

AMOG basics

2010-04-14T13:18:00.007-05:00

If you are going out a lot, you'll sooner or later have to deal with AMOGs . It stands for "Alpha Male Other Guy". These guys attempt to bully or out Alpha you in an attempt to show dominance, and therefore social value.

This is actually a GOOD thing because it means you are projecting high enough value to be a threat to other Alphas for competition for the highest value women. They are testing you to see if you really ARE an alpha, or a faker. Women will watch these interactions with GREAT interest. Not just your girl, but every girl in the room. Your girl will tell her girlfriends the next day about the interaction, win or lose.

You should already be an Alpha yourself (or working on it in the form of inner game, body language, confidence, and lifestyle), so most of the time they will recognize that value and either partner up with you, or even qualify themselves TO you. This is a GREAT gauge of how good your body language is. If they are trying to punk you, you're body language conveys that you are of lower value. If they try to qualify to you, they believe you to be of equal or higher value. You're body language is on lock.

If you catch them qualifying to you, simply friend them and ignore. If they are lame, ignore them so you don't lower your own value.

Many articles have been written on anti-AMOG tactics. I won't cover all of them, look them up. Here are some basics though that will cover 95% of what you'll see in real life.

When in doubt, ignore if possible, then move away.

If they are up in your shit, friend them, then ignore.

If you can't ignore them, keep excluding them from the conversation. Act like they didn't even say anything, start talking about other stuff while they are still talking, etc. Try to not acknowledge anything. Never laugh at anything they say. The second you acknowledge them, you are bringing their value up to the same level as yours.

If at all possible, be having more fun than them.

Confronting is almost always lose lose. (The exception is to out AMOG the AMOG before he gets very far by bringing 10x the energy level to the interaction.) Here's an exchange that happened at a surf spot where a guy was standing a little too close to TN's girl this weekend.

RandomDood: "Hey girl, chatty chat lame chat."

TN: (Catches Dood about to run game because TN's game is airtight. Walks up to RD fast. REAL fast. Big smile. Laser beam eye contact on Dood.) "I fucking LOVE your bike. That is a SICK fucking bike. God DAMN you are a cool motherfucker." (BIG friendly slap on back. Standing CLOSE. REAL CLOSE.)

Randomdood: (shocked, not prepared for the energy difference TN just brought.) "Um, oh, yeah. It's coo.."

TN: (Cutting him off) "No, YOU'RE fucking cool. Come hang out with us any time." (Still big smile)

Randomdood: (Backs WAY up off TN's girl. Catches the implied drift. Realizes he's just been handed his hat.)

TN's Girl: :) (Realizes what just happened, and the fact that she's dating the REAL alpha.)

Outsmarting them verbally to their face to "win" only happens in movies and in nerds' minds. Remember, movies are written by nerdy screenwriters. Notice TN handled everything with energy and body language.

Roosh over at Rooshv.com wrote the quickest, cleanest tactic I've ever seen if you get caught already in a verbal joust and need a quick out. Here it is, paraphrased from memory out of his outstanding book "Bang".

Randomdood: (Walks up into Roosh's set and starts gaming the girl Roosh has already been gaming for twenty minutes.) "Hey!! What's going on over here? Damn, you're cute."

Roosh: "Wait. (Points at girl) Do you like her?"
*Note: The guy has just been called out. He really only has two choices.
A) He says "Um Yeah." This automatically throws up her creeper screen and disqualifies him because remember that Attraction = Not conveying interest. Also, he's still just a random dood. Why would he like her other than looks?
B) He says "No, I'm just out having fun, etc, etc, blah blah". At this point he's already put his dick in a box and he's D-O-N-E.
Regardless of what he says you already have hand, so you simply have to hand him his hat.

Roosh: "That's cool. Well, there are plenty of cute girls here. Good luck brother, Don't give up!!"

If you find yourself getting AMOG'd a lot, then you are drawing it to yourself. I can count on one hand the number of AMOG situations I've dealt with in ten years of going out.

If a guy is trying to AMOG you, out to steal your girl, then some basics will help. The easiest way is to look up AMOG on Youtube. There are some great tutorials on body language to cut them out in a social setting.

Most of the time all you have to do is turn your girl a bit or pull her to the side and face both of your backs to them.
If they are still trying to work in or buy her drinks, then simply grab your girl by BOTH hands and pull her away physically to another location "Hey, I want to show you something cool." When you get her away, say "Here's the something cool, me." Then tickle her and continue gaming.

If you are dealing with a drunk asshole, it's always lose lose. If you confront them, you lose because you're in a fight. If you try a battle of wits, etc, you lose before you've even opened your mouth because you're acknowledging them as an equal. The best course of action is to "girl code" your girl by rolling your eyes and smiling a bit in a "wow, what a drunk idiot" way and/or mouthing the word "creepy" or "creeper" if you can get away with it.

Always be moving her away from the negative vibes of an AMOG.

Remember, Pickup, at it's core, boils down to this:

Become an expert in how to feel good.

Anything that isn't good feelings, is not moving you in a positive direction with the girl.

How to knock a shit test out of the park

2010-04-09T12:47:00.003-05:00

Shit Test:
A shit test is when a woman gives a guy a hard time, usually for the purpose of seeing how he will react. Because women (especially attractive women) are hit on all the time, they have developed behaviors that quickly disqualify potential suitors that are not of a high enough value for her. The shit test is one way to do this. Shit tests can be challenges, IODs or reframes.

Saw this exchange between one of our students and a girl recently. He was playing cheesy pickup line anti-game game. The way it was handled was not only excellent, but spiked her attraction enough for them to be making out an hour later.

Him: "If I told you you had a nice body, would you hold it against me?"

Her: "I have a Taser in my purse. I can hold that against you."

Him: (bare ghost of a smirk. Laserbeam eye contact) "I sensing some electricity between us."

Her: "Really? I'm sensing resistance."

Him: "We're past that. Now there's definately a spark."

You'll notice that she was shit testing him for intelligence. Most of the time shit tests fall in the realm of social intuition and self confidence. When you are picking up top tier girls, remember that a good number of them are not only beautiful, but extremely intelligent and educated. Bring your "A" game.

Lazy man's guide to bagging tens

2010-04-01T12:52:00.005-05:00

So you just found out about game.

You don't have time to actually read anything or study pickup at all like the successful guys. You're going out TONIGHT and want to bag some TENS baby.

Luckily, we have just the solution.

Step One: Visualize the quality of girls you want

Step Two: Visualize the girls you are currently getting

Step Three: Utilize your trusty and TBL approved "Ten bagging Tool"

Step Four: Enjoy!!

Note: This can also be used to upgrade existing wives/girlfriends.

How to pick up asian girls, by an asian girl

2010-03-31T10:35:00.004-05:00

Every guy has a wish list type of girl. Some have a soft spot for redheads. Some guys like blondes.

A whole lot of guys like Asian girls. A whole lot of guys have no idea how to attract them.

Here's a brief how-to written by a cute North American one:

Seeing as how I'm an Asian girl, I can think of a few things compiled from my own and friends' preferences.

Standoffish might mean shy, which virtually every Asian girl I've met is. You must persist, but NEVER appear desperate.

This is the first rule of approaching Asian women. Hear me out. It may seem racist, but what I am about to tell you is true. Most Asian women expect the man to do EVERYTHING. They may want equal rights blah blah... but they expect the man to do all the approaching, all the prompting, and pay for the dates unless otherwise specified. If the girl is standoffish, she may simply have nothing to say to you because she is conditioned to be shy and demure. You must become smooth.

Second, there are two types of Asian girls:

They either like girly men, or manly men. This is pretty much hit or miss... though the majority go for the girly men, therefore you will make a better first impression if you:

Dress well
Are well groomed

Emphasize eyebrows. You may have to pluck.
If you have acne, get something to clear it up.

Dressing well is a sign of wealth. This is extremely important to Asians. You may sometimes see retarded Asian males wearing gangsta clothing. This is fail. You should wear something that a woman would pick out for you. Something a bit dressy, something that screams straight A student.

Third, realize that Asian girls generally love tall white guys. If you look good, and are hitting on them they will probably be flattered. Be confident. Don't be cocky unless you can still be charming.

Fourth, avoid the "can you translate this for me" approach. If you guess the wrong language, it is an automatic turn off. If you are obviously lying, you will just look dumb.

Don't approach them using some kind of Asian pretense. Pretend you don't notice they are Asian.

BE POLITE. Politeness is a huge + (for the majority of Asian girls). Regardless of what they say, courtesy is ingrained in the North American Asians just as much as Asians straight from Asia. They will see politeness as a sign of respect... unless they have completely rebelled against their culture. This will manifest in heavy makeup and slutty clothing. Even then, politeness is still a good bet, as their subconscious desire may conflict with the conscious claim of the Asian woman.

Fifth: There is a 99.9% chance that the Asian girl you are looking at has been exposed to some type of Asian romance drama. This is probably the most irritating thing about Asian girls. In these dramas, people do weird things for no reason and the relationships rarely make sense. However, there is emphasis on 'significant acts' and "everlasting love".

This means that if you give a girl a token of your affection such as a ring, a small drawing you made, or a hair clip you think she'd like...even if she doesn't like it, it's going to be a plus one. If you give her something on your first meeting, its a WTF+1. Give her a flower and ask her to dance. Suddenly she has stepped into a Korean drama dream world which is equivalent to a Disney tale.

Gender English

2010-03-30T16:56:00.003-05:00

What you say vs. what you mean.

The Natural

2010-03-30T10:21:00.008-05:00

The Natural wrote down a few thoughts that bear posting.

You hear about true naturals a lot in pickup. You wonder what makes them a "natural" when social vibing and instinct is so tough for you. Naturals understand basic things about interacting with people and have completely internalized them. You can see that they are basic but true. Most core truths are.

Sometimes it's the basics that you have to remind yourself of:

Give examples of how you want to be treated. How can someone know if you're even capable of showing compassion if you, yourself, don't show compassion to others?

To make friends all one has to do is show an example of how you want to be treated.

You make friends the same way you make lovers. Treat someone you want contact with the same way you, yourself, would want to be treated.

If you're a guy and you want to show a girl you care about her, then you show a soft, loving, caring, and compassionate side of yourself.

We all have different feelings inside of us and they are closely related to how we treat others.

The better you treat others, the better you yourself feel.

Say what you mean.

Do not lie just to spare feelings.

It's better not to speak if only bad will be the end result.

Why bring bad when the choice to do right is for the good of all.

To hate others is keeping in the good. Let out the positive and reinforcing words into the world, or negativity will come in to replace the good.

Let your light shine, and bring peace and happiness.

Evil is only present when good is not around.

Positivity repels Evil.

The light is the only thing that brings clarity to see what is happening.

Be cool to others instead of just trying to piss people off.

Because that's just not cool motherfuckers! xx

Note: These are actual pictures of TN flying a 2meter at Kite point, Lake Hefner (Oklahoma City) 3-29-10. The best things in life are simple and free.

Older Guys with Style

2010-03-25T15:08:00.000-05:00

We get a lot of older guys wanting to get back into the dating game.

One of the biggest problems most of them have is they are stuck in their comfortable fashion of ten to twenty years ago.

Here are some helpful style ideas from guys that are older but with a sense of fashion.

Most of these are found over on thesartorialist.blogspot.com

How things really work

2010-03-19T12:24:00.001-05:00

Pickup is a really tough thing to swallow.

Think about what you're REALLY telling a guy.

A) 10% of the guys have been banging 90% of the women your entire life and you haven't been in the 10%

B) Everything that everyone, including movies, culture, your parents, your friends, everyone you've ever known, including your girlfriends, has been wrong/bullshit.
C) All those times your girl left you or fucked some other guy it's been EASY for those guys simply because they had a little pickup knowledge, or they just naturally figured it out as a kid.

D) Everything you've been working for your entire life.. cars/house/success/money/life has been a waste of time because you can get the girl of your dreams and keep her happy with just some knowledge of how women actually work.

E) You are a chump. Women, and those 10% of men, know it and have always known it.

This is a TOUGH motherfucking pill to swallow.

The only thing that makes it worse is going out in the field and testing this stuff and getting girls, and nailing them on the same night, and their girlfriends. While their so sad nice guy ex bf or bf is texting his I love you sooo much messages to her. The same messages you've sent plenty of. Then it dawns on you what your ex gf's were REALLY doing while you were sending them and boo hooing. Once you've gotten over that shock, the shades are lifted from your eyes, and you're finally at one with how things REALLY work. Some men get to work and finally get their lives right. Some men run screaming in pure revulsion from the horror of the above realizations.
The haters are mostly guys who want to keep believing what the television and their mom told them, to just "be yourself" and everyone will have a happy ending. They'll get what they always got, and never understand the truth.
They'll keep hating "those fag jocks, man. They're fucking assholes. I don't understand why she's WITH those guys". The chumps will never get in the gym for six months, learn some pickup, and go GET the dreamgirl. They'll keep hoping for miracles, hating the successful guys, and shit talking anyone who points out the tested, verified, reproducable results that pickup is comprised of.

When the early astronomers, "Galileo, Copernicus, etc", first started telling people that the Earth went around the Sun, the religeous people tried to silence, then kill them. The astronomers were scientists though, and said "I don't care if it shatters your world, your belief system, or your God. This is how shit REALLY works."

Pickup: This is how shit REALLY works.

What a married man really wants

2010-03-02T10:37:00.002-06:00

So you've done it. You've gamed your ass off, became an alpha, found the girl. Married the girl.

You've got the house, the kids, the job, and the awesome wife who you (omg) actually truly love.

Now what?

Well, the best thing is, it's up to you. But. Even if everything is on track and you're really truly digging your kids and love your wife, it's easy to fall into a pattern.

Falling into a pattern is easy to do. It's your job to break it up so it doesn't become one. This goes not only for taking care of yourself with exercise and adventures, but also in keeping your relationship in the proper man/woman perspective.

No girl wants to spend her life with some boring old dude, so don't become that.

If you want more sex, make it happen. If you want a sloppy blowjob for father's day, don't ask for clothes or a new set of socket wrenches. You are the man and part of that is letting her know what you really want.

Suffering because you don't get what you want makes you resent her. If she's great enough to marry, she's great enough to not deserve your resentment. She deserves betterafraid to ask than a pissy, bitch ass husband that is for what he REALLY WANTS.

Here's one man's Fathers day request:

Every year you ask what I want for Father's Day with the kids (conveniently?) sitting right in front of us, and every year I provide G-rated suggestions because (call me a prude) its sorta not appropriate to ask for sexual favors in front of the kids. So in the off chance you're reading the rants or looking for a poolboy, even though we don't have a pool, here's what I really want:

I want to wake up to you sucking my cock. Defined, this means that I'm asleep and you go down on me while I'm asleep, not after 45 minutes of me pretending to be asleep and dreaming of winning the blow job lottery. Please skip the requisite if-I-have-to sigh and eye rolling for one day.

I want a breakfast including eggs, bacon, and fresh fruit. No carb-packed wheat-byproducts, nothing frozen, nothing out of a box, and especially nothing in individually wrapped servings.

I want to have a fun day doing anything except what is on the honey-do list. Anything on the do-honey list is perfectly OK.

Examples:
Giving me grief while watching Nascar Sunday is not a good idea.
Giving me head while watching Nascar Sunday is a great idea.
Asking me to dig some holes in the backyard is not a good idea.
Asking me to plug your hole in your backdoor is a great idea.
Taking the kids out for a while and letting me nap would be nice.
Taking my cock out and sucking it after my nap would be nicer.

For dinner, I want a slab of red meat. Fresh, premium, not shrink wrapped. BBQ'd, not nuked or broiled. Rare. So rare a good veterinarian can revive it. A tall, cold beer. And fresh vegetables on the side, although it's unlikely I'll eat them, so I don't know why I bothered mentioning them.

After the kiddies are asleep, I want sex. Uninhibited, sweaty, porn star sex. Gone for the night is the bored housewife in boring clothes reading a boring book, I am going to be the dominant male and you to be my submissive anything-to-please-daddy fuck-slut.

I want you wearing something erotic. Defined, 'erotic' includes leather, lace, high heels, crotchless, racy, etc. 'Erotic' probably includes that thing you bought for Valentines Day two years ago that never made it out of the drawer. 'Erotic' does not include baggy jammies, grandma underwear, furry slippers, sweatpants, sweatshirts, sweatsocks, or the asexual garments you wear the other 364 days.

I want my cock sucked again, deep throated, like you can't get enough, and when I cum, I want you to savor it like it's Godiva white chocolate. Don't give me that 'it tastes funny'crap; lick it up and suck it up and smile all the way.

I want you fucking me like its the last dick you'll be getting for a while. Acceptable positions are on your knees, on top, doggie style, bent over, hanging from the ceiling, pretty much anything except missionary on the bed. Slap your ass cheeks, rub your clit, pinch your nipples, talk dirty, suck me often, and most importantly, finger your ass. Finger your ass until its ready for my cock, then beg for my cock up your ass and fuck it like you did with your pussy.

When I cum, yes, I'm cumming in your ass. I don't care if you get the runs tomorrow, I am cumming in your ass. Because it feels great. And then I'll fuck your ass until I'm limp and resigned to waiting another 365 days to tap your ass again.

Because Dear Wife, it's Father's Day, my day, and that's what I really want.

99 Problems

2010-02-12T17:23:00.007-06:00

Benjamin Franklin, our ambassador to France in the 1700's, had put on some weight since his last visit.

A woman said to him "Benjamin! What would you say if that belly was on a woman?"

He smiled politely and replied "Madam, twenty minutes ago this belly WAS on a woman."

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Are people getting more attractive?

2010-02-12T17:12:00.001-06:00

You've heard it a million times before. "I wish girls looked like that when I was that age."

You've heard it from thirty year old guys and seventy year old guys.

Are people in fact getting more attractive? Let's take a look.

Here's a pic of an average office party with regular people from the twenties.

We've noted most of the dating age people with attraction scores based on the most common 1-10 scale. Zero is a monster, five an average person, seven attractive with no obvious physical flaws (solid gf/bf material for most people), and ten being a model.

Note that the AVERAGE attractiveness in the room is 6.4.

Now let's take a look at a modern office party:

Now we find that the average is 5.78.

So are people really getting more attractive, or are there simply so many more people in the population that the rare models/tens are a larger group of people, of which there are now plenty to fill up all the advertising and popular programming you watch?

The numbers are almost identical if you round them out. If you're at a bar or club, there will always tend to be more attractive people because as a rule the least attractive people don't feel comfortable in a place that is so looks conscious.

So when you're feeling like you're the ugliest person in the world, remember that YOU are the majority. This means that MOST girls are perfectly in your league. The further you reach up out of your league, the tighter your game has to be.

- Bon

The Bachelor Life's Guide to Cockblocking Your Buddies

2010-01-22T17:34:00.009-06:00

There are some unwritten friend rules that guys have to live by.

One of the lesser known ones is the beer goggle cockblock.

If you see your buddy wrapped up in the tentacles of a monster, PULL HIM AWAY.

He will get upset. He will want to fight you. He will tell you to fuck off. Pull him away anyway. He will thank you tomorrow.

Now, this sounds like an easy thing to do, but it can be tough. You just push through that mental bullshit that will hit you like "He's a big boy, he can handle it." or "Damn, that is SO FUNNY." It's NOT funny. When your buddies are messing around with monsters, it devalues YOU. Maybe not at this party, but the next one.

People remember that your "group" has that guy in it that nailed that monster. If you think girls don't know who's fucking who, and who is friends them, then you're kidding yourself. Don't lose the friend, save him.

Here are some helpful examples:

Being Goofy

2010-01-22T17:02:00.000-06:00

If you boil pickup and seduction down to the absolute root base, it's this:

Become and expert in how to feel good.

Feel good yourself, and people will gravitate to you. Be an expert in making them feel great about themselves and being around you in general, and you will succeed in women, work, life, and everything else.

Being goofy and fun is not lowering your value, it's increasing it because you are increasing the good feelings surrounding you and them.

Here are some pictures to get you in the proper goofy, fun mood.

Ten dollar date flowchart

2010-01-22T16:54:00.000-06:00

So you're still paying off Christmas, or you're smart and just bought that car/motorcycle because they are cheapest this time of the year.

OH NO!! A Date!! And she's cute!! What to do???

I suggest you take filife.com's advice and consult the below ten dollar date flow chart. It is TBL approved.

An American tragedy

2010-01-22T16:47:00.003-06:00

This picture sums up a lot of what's wrong with America.

If you see this happening, or you see your sister/friendgirl stuck with a bunch of monsters, try to at least invite her out to get her away from them. If someone doesn't, she's going to get sucked into that self reinforcing negative energy circle and turn into a monster with them. These people love nothing more than taking a halfway normal/cute girl and dragging her down to Hell with them.

Mistakes? What mistakes! ;D

2010-01-13T14:08:00.004-06:00

Be not ashamed of mistakes and thus make them crimes.
Confucius

Occasionally, we all make mistakes. You'll say the wrong thing. You'll think of nothing to say, and later l'esprit d'escalier kicks in. I promise you, it doesn't matter. These "mistakes" form the basis of greatness, invention and mastery. Your aim? Forgive yourself for any past mistakes, and conquer them! Take some classes, read some more posts, get out in the field, and do it again :D

In my early days of Day Game, I sucked! I'd approach, ask for directions, and try and hook from there. I was stuck! For all my confidence, I could not see the mistake I was making. I had to step back, return to my social circle, and observe... The key? Not the opener. Not the speech. The smile. After a short break, I retried. I approach the same quality of sets, in the same location. I held conversations, kept it light hearted and completed by first Day Game #close.

At the moment, I'm writing a free downloadable guide for you guys on Social Circle game, and I'm working on a project of my own ;)

Paradox

The Seventh

2010-01-07T07:54:00.002-06:00

I don't know about you but it is pay day and the only thing I can think about spending my money on is rewarding my self for working hard! So, if you are out there running your own business or getting paid to do the work for someone Else's business, I say give your self props!

If you know a lazy person that is capable of work and doesn't have any money and just doesn't want to work to pay off their bills... Good luck to them, they will need it!

my favorite quote applies here,

"America, your free but that sandwich is about tree fiddy."
TN-

Ten Rules of Feeling Good

2010-01-06T14:42:00.002-06:00

Make yourself feel good first.
Never try to make anyone feel bad.
Try to make everyone around you feel good.
Making other people around you feel good makes YOU feel good. Even making others feel good is a semi-selfish gesture.
You NEVER sacrifice your own good feelings to make another person feel good.
You don't feel negative emotions, except when doing so makes you feel good.
You don't try to fix problems. You try to make people feel better about them.
If it's not your job, don't try to go logical or problem solve issues around. It's not fun.
Never look down on anything. Be indifferent about stuff that you don't like.
If you're failing to keep one of those rules, that's okay as long as you keep the appearance that you're following them.

The ideal kind of fun comes from a leader who engages in "mutual value escalation". This is where someone makes someone else feel good, and themselves feel good at the same time.

Why do women love gay guys so much? They follow the feel-good plan, and mutually value escalate A LOT.

Example: "OH-MY-GOD! You're SO Pretty!"

What was your excuse again?

2010-01-05T16:07:00.004-06:00

So you can't find a girl because of....

Oh, that's right. I mean, you'd have cute girls if only:

(Check the lame excuses that apply)

Your Height
Your Weight
Your Hair
Your Job
Your Situation
((Insert your personal specific excuse(s) here) )

THIS GUY ONLY HAS A FUCKING ARM and he's got a girl you'd KILL to date.

He's a soldier on disability, so it's not his money she's after. What could it be that attracts her to him?

Personality, charm, and how he makes her FEEL. When she's with him, she's with a HERO. A Hero is by definition not just AN alpha, but THE alpha. She's not with a cripple, she's with a HERO.

His frame is ROCK SOLID. Jack Nicholson looks horrible now, but gets the hottest girls. Why? Because he's not an old fat guy, he's a STAR.

When you start acting like an alpha, and keeping your frame strong, that's WHO YOU ARE. Women you meet don't know who you WERE, they know who you ARE. Act like a man, be a man, get the girl.

No excuses.

Tom Neathway. War Hero, Pickup Hero. Respect.

Photos courtesy http://www.thesun.co.uk

Original Articles Here and Here

TBL Guide to Confidence: Big Trouble in Little China Edition

2010-01-05T14:45:00.019-06:00

Unshakeable confidence.

Some guys are born with it. Some guys learn it. Women love it. You need it.

They aren't any different than you, but they BELIEVE with every part of their existence that they really ARE capable of doing anything. They CREATE the world that supports this belief. And you know what? You'll follow them to the gates of Hell.

George S. Patton, the most famous general of WWII, was asked "Did you feel confident you could lead the allied forces?" He replied "Well, some son of a bitch had to do it. Why not me?"

Here's one of my favorite movie heroes, Jack Burton, in "Big trouble in little China." He's just a truck driver, but in almost every scene he has a crowd of people backing him up or following him. Why? CONFIDENCE.

When you have confidence, you're the leader of men, get the girl, save the day, and most importantly, you get your God damn truck back.

"Everybody relax, I'm here."

Like I told my last wife, I says, "Honey, I never drive faster than I can see. Besides that, it's all in the reflexes."

Uncle Chu: What the hell is Gracie Law doing here?
Jack Burton: She can't get enough of me.
Gracie: Hah! He wishes.

"When some wild-eyed, eight-foot-tall maniac grabs your neck, taps the back of your favorite head up against the barroom wall, and he looks you crooked in the eye and he asks you if ya paid your dues, you just stare that big sucker right back in the eye, and you remember what ol’ Jack Burton always says at a time like that: ‘Have ya paid your dues, Jack?’ ‘Yes sir, the check is in the mail."

Jack Burton: Just remember what ol' Jack Burton does when the earth quakes, and the poison arrows fall from the sky, and the pillars of Heaven shake. Yeah, Jack Burton just looks that big ol' storm right square in the eye and he says, "Give me your best shot, pal. I can take it."

Rejection Ejection

2009-12-29T09:39:00.002-06:00

I used to be a bartender.

By far, best thing I ever saw, happened late one Friday night.

There was a woman standing at the bar drinking alone. A guy walked over. He seemed very friendly and tried to strike up a conversation. She was offish and rude to him so eventually he gave up. But, before turning to leave, he said "I may not be the best looking man in here, but I'm the only one talking to you."

How to pick me up - by a hot girl

2009-12-28T15:46:00.019-06:00

Here's a recent run down on how to pick up a hot girl, written by one.

Tell me something I don't know. By that, I mean don't tell me about what level you are in WOW or about fantasy baseball league (unless I ask). Tell me about something you saw in the news recently, a trip you just came back from, etc. Most girls have heard all of the same things before. Providing me with something new makes you a lot more interesting. It also makes you seem like you're just friendly and trying to have a conversation, not like you're trying to get in my pants.

The right kind of girl could probably care less what you're wearing in terms of brand. As long as it doesn't add ten pounds to your frame or your t-shirt says something like "made you look". That being said, do not dress or look like a total douche bag. I'm not impressed by jewel-adorned jeans or t-shirts (save that for the ladies). I'm not attracted to bright orange skin, or hair that makes me want to touch it only because I know it won't move. Personally, I'm attracted to the "I care but I don't" look, like jeans and a t-shirt or hoodie. We can tell if you're comfortable in your clothing, and more importantly we can tell if you're trying too hard.
Pick up lines are not a solid introduction. Simply saying "Hey, what's going on?" or giving a genuine smile is probably your best bet. If she replies or smiles back, it means she's A) not a bitch and B) most likely willing to have a conversation of sorts. If the conversation dies, let it die. Just say "See you around." or something. Don't stand there in the hopes it will pick up. If she's interested, she'll let you know. Also, leaving the conversation before it even gets to that point is good. If you're not getting any positive vibes, just politely bail.
I cannot stress the importance of smelling good. However, don't make me wonder if you work for Axe or The Body Shop. This goes for your body AND your clothes.
If you have any, bring a female friend. It will probably make you feel more comfortable and make you appear as if you actually know how to talk to girls. Also, she'll be able to save you if it seems like you're digging yourself a hole.
Act like you're having fun and a good time!

I hope that helps. Good luck, Stud. :) - Reina

Courtesy Reddit.com

Knowledge is Power- Scientia potentia est

2009-12-26T13:51:00.005-06:00

Scientia potentia est - For also knowledge itself is power

We may believe, as a community, that we can be lead to knowledge by the masters of our art. One of my earliest students I taught Scientia potentia est too was Autumn, a young, aspiring seduction scientist.

"Surely, Mystery has experienced all my problems, and comes with solutions? By reading his writings, surely I can gain knowledge, and therefore be a confident Master Pick Up Artist (MPUA)?"

I replied:

"No man can lead you to knowledge. Knowledge comes with learning. Understanding. And, most importantly building connections between your own beliefs, mindset and skills. Knowledge can only be gained from within."

I realised that most need to be taught how to truly acquire knowledge. Thankfully, there is a simple method you should make your New Years resolution. Read a source (blogs, books , transcripts etc), whether its NLP, PUA or just a related topic that catches your attention, at least once a month. To truly learn this material, I suggest you take notes as you see key points, in your own words. And, overall, these notes should consume less than what you can fit on a postit note (or 1/8 of a A4 page).

Now, the knowledge part. Revisit just these notes after 2 months, or when you require the book. By reading just the notes, you should remember writing them, where they apply, and suddenly, you'll reabsorb the main meaning of the book. Think how this applies to other books you've read. Does it match? Improve? Or disprove? What do you prefer? As you build these links, you'll spot patterns rapidly. You'll be able to solve situations not just from a Mystery point of view, but also from other sources, building a more natural, self method to seduction.

Try it. Make it your target for the New Year.

Paradox

:)

2009-12-25T11:32:00.000-06:00

The Times

2009-12-24T08:08:00.007-06:00

I have been the happiest I've ever been in the past year. Let me tell you why...

I recently discovered, through the wonderful criticism of my friends, how I do what I do. It's true that everything I do, I give my best. It looks natural because I've already fucked it up every way that it could be fucked up.

I think what help set the mind-frame I have now was in fact joining the military at seventeen. This is a true test of survival of the fittest.

I didn't die in the past eight years, so now I think, at least in my own mind, that I have the right to the American way until I die. This frame of mind makes me very thankful for all the little things I do have. I have inner peace and forgive me if this sounds familiar, but my Chi is fucking centered. I'm not getting religious on you. In fact, Nature is my crack. It's my crystal meth. If you ever have held anything in, you know it eats you from the inside out. That is why I've been the happiest I've ever been in the past year, because i don't have anything personal to hide. If you haven't read my book, write your own. It is the way I got my conscience clear and my Chi centered.

When you have no secrets, you don't have a heavy mind. It takes a lot of balls to admit to the things one has done in life. I admitted to everyone and published it as my autobiography. I wrote it in combat and it was originally meant as my eulogy. But, I wanted to be free and lose what ever friends wanted to lose me.

The friends I have now are the result of learning from my past. True happiness is what I can offer. Let a friend know what you're ashamed of living with, and pass on that burden until it either gets fixed or you can stop thinking about it constantly. I am always free to listen.

The Bachelor Life goes INTERNATIONAL

2009-12-23T16:06:00.005-06:00

We are excited here at TBL. We've finally crossed the pond.

We're excited to hear about all things pickup from the founding member of the TBL crew Europe: Paradox

He is representing from England. We're excited to have a talented new writer in the scene contributing original content and, if you pay attention, improving your life. Since he's from Europe, he's experienced competing with real players from Italy, France, etc. This means you want to listen.

In honor, here are some English guys with game:

Gentlemen, I am Paradox

2009-12-23T14:59:00.005-06:00

I'm Paradox, I'm the latest guest writer here on TBL. I'll be posting must have advice for any new, existing, or established Seduction Scientist, that, from other sources would normally cost a fortune. Every week (check regular, I'm rather spontaneous) I'll post a nice, short, to the point tip you can introduce to your game, no matter what level you are, alongside my unique flowchart lesson strategy, helping to build 100% natural game.

Here's your first TBL exclusive tip: Read the blog! Knowledge is power!

I came to this realisation on my first true sarge. I'd read Mystery Method, Double Your Dating, and of course, The Game. I could open, comfort, and close. Yet, I lacked what I truly desired. A sense for what to do next all natural have. This comes only with knowledge. Pick a trustworthy source of information, and spend just a few minutes, on your mobile, computer, whatever, reading a few tips. It'll make you more confident, better able to cope with unpredictable scenarios (aka, women ;P) and, it'll keep you up to date with the latest developments in the field.

Merry Christmas, eat, drink and get sarging,

Paradox

A Very Merry Christmas!!

2009-12-22T17:16:00.003-06:00

Hey, have a really REALLY great Christmas this year.

Most years you never know how it's going to go. This year try to MAKE it good by really bringing happiness and a good time to everyone around you.

Much love. - The Bachelor Life crew

TBL Guide to taking one for the team

2009-12-21T15:43:00.005-06:00

You will be asked to take one for the team at some point.

Your friend is locked in with a hot girl, and her ugly friend is bored/cock blocking.

Now you and your friend both know for GOT DAMN sure he owes you one for this. At some point though, you may find yourself at a bridge. The bridge called "Do I really have to hook up with her?". This is the transition from "handling" a cock block, and taking one for the team. Taking one all smelly, sweaty night long.

Remember this: It is OK to tell your buddy he's on his own. There are plenty of women in the world. You don't have to sacrifice your penis. Just keep in mind that someday the cheerleader may be on the other foot.

Here's a handy guide to what types of girl you should man up and help your buddy out with, and which ones you can say "Sorry bro, I love you, but I've got to go."

Preselection from a woman's point of view

2009-12-21T09:21:00.001-06:00

Since we're delving into the mind of women lately, here's a gem written in the first person about how women deal with pre-selected men.

From the always excellent "http://www.violentacres.com"

"I think I was around 19 years old when I became mildly interested in my co-worker, Jack. I fancied his voice and when you’re young, dumb, and pumped full of estrogen, that’s all it usually takes for a man to earn an eyebrow rise.

I casually made some inquires on Jack’s status and soon learned that he had a girlfriend. Now usually, a girlfriend is merely a small obstacle that can be quickly overcome, but in Jack’s case, this was a 4 year old relationship. At our age, a 4 year long relationship was an eternity. To me, that suggested that there were some real feelings between Jack and his girl. Maybe they were even in love.

Upon that realization, my mild interest abruptly turned to ‘I have to have him.’

The truth is women love to compete with other women. Women want to win men over. They want to be chosen by a man who could have any girl he wants. No woman of caliber wants to win a man by default. She wants her man to be a prize, a good catch, someone she can be proud of. When you tell a woman that her significant other is handsome or intelligent, she’ll likely beam with self satisfaction. In complimenting her man, you’ve complimented her. You have told her, in so many words, that she is capable of attracting a quality mate. The women who rail against this usually have a low self esteem and thus avoid competition because they fear they’ll always fail….or they’re ugly. You pick.

I’m not sure if this is socialization or biology. After all, how many men are constantly exclaiming that they couldn’t get a date to save their lives when they were single, only to snag a girlfriend and be surrounded by willing seducers? It happens all the freaking time. My situation was no exception.

And anyone who is shocked by the fact that I was about to cross a line and nefariously woo a boy away from his girl needs to give me a fucking break. When I was 19, I was not deeper or more self aware than any other girl my age. I was not ‘above’ anything. I was the same idiotic, short sighted twit as the rest of them. Cut me some slack, already.

Also, I’d like to point out that my ways of wooing a man are embarrassingly old fashioned. My great grandmother gave me all of my dating advice as a young adult and she was born in 1904, so it included such pearls of wisdom such as ‘never look at a boy first, don’t express too much interest, never start the conversation, and for god’s sakes, never initiate The Talk.’ But I’d also like to point out that my great grandmother was happily married for 52 years, so take her advice for what you will.

So I commenced with my wooing which included some light laughter, a couple of well placed accidental flashes of skin, and a few knowing looks. When Jack invited me to grab some coffee after work, I’d smiled at him coyly and say, “Now that would hardly be appropriate, considering your girlfriend…” and then I’d sashay away before he could answer.

Yeah, the logical part of my mind can hardly believe garbage like that works, either. But dating isn’t about logic. It’s all maneuverings and subtle manipulations.

After about 6 weeks of this, Jack invited me out to dinner, but before I could turn him down he teasingly informed me that he no longer had a girlfriend to insult my sense of appropriateness.

Girlfriend was out. I was in. We began casually dating.

But even as I tentatively claimed victory, I second guessed myself. After all, Jack and I were only dating. He and his girlfriend had enjoyed a four year long relationship. If I couldn’t inspire in Jack those same feelings for myself, technically, technically, I had not won. It wasn’t until I pondered this that I realized exactly how much competition had motivated my actions. Sure, I liked Jack. But had he not had a girlfriend, I probably wouldn’t have bothered to get to know him enough to like him in the first place.

I started thinking about all the other ways in which women compete. For example, fashion. Women don’t dress to impress men. Men are just as happy to see you wearing one of their shirts than in a smart pants suit. Women dress to impress other women. Women also compete with other women in terms of popularity and prestige. They gather friends and worshipers around them like little status symbols. Men don’t care about how many phone numbers a woman has programmed into her cell phone.

Before you claim that I am, once again, judging women too harshly, I will concede that a good portion of women grow out of this behavior as they age. True, in current generations enlightened women are becoming increasingly fewer, but who knows? The world isn’t stagnant. It can change.

But I’m digressing again, so back to my story.

In my muddled teenaged mind, I wondered if competition would inspire Jack like it had inspired me. So I decided to perform a little experiment.

I bought myself 2 dozen red roses. I wrote on the card ‘I can’t stop thinking about you.’ Then I placed them in the corner of my room, on top of my entertainment center. My goal was to make sure that they were visible without making it seem like I was purposely trying to draw attention to them.

That evening, Jack came to pick me up for our date. I did not mention or even glance at the roses. Instead, I quickly informed Jack that I had re-thought my wardrobe and I was going to go slip on a sweater. I went into my bedroom to change.

Now, the hall to my bedroom was decorated with 5 full length mirrors. So from my bedroom, I could spy into my living room. I watched Jack warily eye my roses. I watched him nervously pluck the card from its holder. I watched him put the card back and skitter to the other side of the room. When he was safely in the clear, I came bounding out of my bedroom cheerfully wondering aloud which movie the pair of us should see.

“I was thinking that we would skip the movie,” Jack replied, “I’ve got something else in my mind.”

I had never had so much fun on just one date. We went to some place and played laser tag. We went for a romantic hike in the woods. We ended the evening in an expensive Italian restaurant sharing plates of pasta full of good cheer. During dessert, Jack got serious for a minute. Finally, finally, Jack was initiating The Talk.

I’m having so much fun, he says. I want to see where this goes, he says. I’d like for us to be more serious, he says.

What he meant to say was that he’d like to beat the crap out of the mysterious guy who bought me flowers. Figuratively speaking, of course.

The point of my story isn’t to brag. I’ve been the girlfriend before and I’ve lost my man to a more fetching woman. However, I will stipulate that moments like that usually occur when one stops putting effort into the relationship.

The point of my story is to illustrate how inclined both sexes are to compete against their peers, even in terms of dating. Hell, especially in terms of dating.

I can usually tell if a relationship is doomed the second I hear a woman putting herself down in front of her boyfriend. Ladies! Constantly referring to yourself as ‘fat’ or ‘stupid’ or ‘worthless’ won’t inspire tenderness from most males. The only thing you’re doing is convincing him that he made a mistake in choosing you. It is no coincidence the second your self confidence evaporated was the same second he developed a wandering eye. You told him you sucked and now he believes you. He’s wondering if he could do better.

Men do the same thing. The self depreciating man who tells his girlfriend that he’s lucky she loves him because no one else will is begging her to suck his best friend’s dick. No woman respects a man she suspects would die fat and alone without her divine presence. What does that say about her that they guy she chooses to spend her time with is only with her because no one else would have him? Every time a man fawns all over his girlfriend because she had the benevolence to let him stick his pee pee in her, she starts to wonder if she could attract a guy who isn’t such a fucking tool.

And if you are a loser or a reject who struck gold by snagging your significant other? Pretend you’re not. Don’t constantly insult them by vaguely suggesting that they ‘settled’ for you. Besides, if your significant other is as wonderful as you say, they probably have solid, legitimate reasons for being in your company. Don’t underestimate yourself.

And if you have already lost respect for your significant other and wonder if you can do better? Drop them, already. Trust in the fact that there is someone, somewhere, who will see your ex as a good catch. Of course, your ex will probably convince them otherwise and get dumped again, but at least you don’t having to listen to that pitiful whining anymore.

Above all, respect the role that competition plays in our personal relationships. If you slack off during a race, you’ll likely lose that race. Likewise, if you slack off with your relationship, that relationship will probably bite the dust.

Unless, of course, you’re cheating. But in both cases, even the cheaters usually get caught."

Garfield vs. AFC

2009-12-21T09:11:00.000-06:00

How a teenage girl plans sex

2009-12-19T16:56:00.003-06:00

Girl rats out brother for having some beers to parents. Brother finds her list of guys she's hooking up with rated by what she'll let them do to her, as well as who already has. He posts it on Facebook.

Interesting to see the inside of a girl's mind.

Attraction Words

2009-12-18T13:21:00.002-06:00

Here are some words and statements you should consider using more when in the attraction and qualification phase of a pickup.

Watch a natural operate and you'll see similar "feel" in the words they use.

Words:

Amazing
Adorable
Inticing
Incredible
Great
Fantastic
Awesome

Statements:
"You rock! I think I'm gonna keep you."
"That's pretty awesome.."
"There's something different about you. It's good."
"I promised my friends I wouldn't meet anyone tonight!... They are gonna be pissed at you.." (smirk)
"You know what? You're half-way decent.."
"This is getting better by the minute.."
"I have to admit, you've completely turned around my first impression of you.."
"You're either the coolest girl I've met in a long time, or you're a total weirdo. I can't tell. Probably a little bit of both."
"Oh, come on. You tell that to all the boys to impress them."
"You're pretty cool. Do you practice this?"
"You're like the mother of your group. That's gonna be a real problem for me because I have a big soft spot for girls who take care of me."
"WOW!! I'm glad to know."
"Try not to be so awesome.. Things might get messy.."
"Knock it off.. You're giving me butterflies.."
"Wow, you're awesome. Can you believe we met here?"

Gunwitch Method

2009-12-17T17:28:00.002-06:00

This blog is for men.

It's not for men after it's been approved by women, or for men after sitting down and soul searching if it might piss people off.

Gunwitch is a pickup artist on the aggressive side. His techniques will get you laid. A lot.

His methods will also get you branded as an asshole if you talk about it. This style of pickup is geared towards same night lays, bj's in the club parking lot, and knowing the people at the health clinic on a first name basis. Use this information wisely.

This is the pure uncut China white of getting laid. You have been warned.

Gunwitch Method

Naked Hot Tub Neighbors

2009-12-17T13:31:00.003-06:00

As much as having a hot tub rocks, remember your poor neighbors.

Here's a letter from one of them.

You guys are freaking hilarious. At the very least please record the audio from your night. Last weekend's favorite quote: "I want your boobies to kiss my boobies."
Please hand out a lyrics sheet to all members of the hot tub. I would love to help pick the songs, if I'm going to have to listen to them.
Let's make it an official rule. Every time a guy stands up, you ladies must yell at the top of your lungs "Cocktail!" and then drink. Also for every time someone says boobies, the group drinks.
Plastic Only! - Lesson Learned
Just say "Turn off your porch light." rather than unscrewing it. I will hop right up and do it. I didn't realize when you were having someone unscrew a light it was mine.
In the event you are playing "guess who's foot.", please be clear with your rules. There seemed to be some confusion in the past.
I didn't quite catch all the shapes that had been shaved in the ladies' Whoonie Nananas. Please redo that conversation and this time a little louder.
Bring back Willie. Everyone loves Willie. Or even better, just get Jack Black. My favorite part was hearing him talk about how much he loves being a soccer coach to these little kids while he is sitting buck ass naked in a hot tub. Somehow naked hot tubs and talks of children don't seem to mix.
Start and finish times; 3:30am to 5:30 throws my schedule completely off. Can we shoot for 1-3am?
Thanks for describing the cup sizes. Let's make that a habit. Really, feel free to be as descriptive as possible. When I compared notes with the other neighbors, we weren't exactly sure who had what. Maybe repeat your name after the description.
After this weekend we will have two more neighbors. They will be living upstairs and I am guessing will have a pretty unobstructed view. I do not know if they will find you as funny as I do. Maybe an invite for them?
Bathroom use. Kudos to all of you who got OUT of the hot tub! The couple of you who didn't... Shame!
The ass smacking, although it sounded solid, I think needs some more work. Don't be shy. Really get after it! After all, you're drunk, and you'll need something to remember it by.
If you find yourself in a lull, feel free to just yell "Boobies!" or "Cocktail!" for no apparent reason.
Last rule. Please only have very attractive naked hot tub party attendees. Unless you follow strict rules of bringing them home after I have gone to bed. This will allow me to imagine it is Halle Berry, Jessica Alba, and Pam Anderson in your hot tub.

Last weekend, rather than get mad and try to sleep, I thought "Screw it. I'll just listen to the show. Twenty feet away just isn't far enough to stop sound." Thanks for the entertainment.

-- Your neighbor.

Tattoo Guide

2009-12-17T12:27:00.000-06:00

This should help you out if you're considering a new tattoo. You can also use this as a pocket reference in field.

Credit: http://jotterofarotter.blogspot.com/

The Bachelor's Guide to Boy Toys (Part 6)

2009-12-16T16:46:00.004-06:00

Cool Dog
Girl Gain: +5%

Cost: Purch: $0-500
A cool dog is defined as: Adorable, does NOT shit/piss on the floor. Does NOT make your house smell, or otherwise grossify it with excess hair/mud/chewed things and furniture. If your dog has any or all of these traits, you are getting a net woman LOSS at all times.

Cost: Monthly: $50-100     Alpo and Vet visits aren't free.

Age ranges:
Five to Eighteen:     Everyone has pets at this age. Net neutral for women.

Eighteen to Thirty:     You show you are a protector of loved ones (your dog, but she'll correlate it to her and you guys' kids). You know how to put your foot down enough to train a dog correctly because he can fetch, and doesn't shit on your floor. If he does, you are a pussy and kind of gross with low value because you allow it. If you have a good dog, then you can take him and her with you in your Jeep to reinforce your cool/outdoors/adventurous cred. The dog doesn't GET you girls, but he might in some instances help you open girls or have girls open you if you travel with him a lot. Dog parks are great for this. Add an additional +5% if he can catch frisbees.

Thirty to Sixty: This dog gives you instant comfort with women your age, but no help with younger women. Helps offset weirdness if you come off as creepy/weird or are very physically unattractive. Also gives you a reason to go to dog parks/public places and not be the weird older guy walking around by himself. Additionally, you will get opened by similar aged women at the pet store/etc. Remember to use your dog as a conversation piece to build rapport.

Bachelor's Guide to Boy Toys (Part 5)

2009-12-16T16:14:00.003-06:00

New/Kickass Sports Car
Girl Gain: +10%

Cost: Purch: $15-50k
You could get a two year old clean little Eclipse GT or something like that on the low end. You could get that new Mercedes/BMW/Porsche on the upper end.

Cost: Monthly: $500 Payments and insurance. If it's nice, you want to keep it nice. When you sell it, you'll get some of your money back, so it's not that huge an anchor, but it still costs a lot.

Age Ranges:
Five to Fifteen: Grow up kid, toys are for big boys. Go to college.

Fifteen to Eighteen: Dad bought you one for your birthday. Girls will tell everyone you're stuck up and spoiled in class, then give you head in the parking lot after school. Other guys will be jealous and think you're a dick. You will have sex with most of the hottest girls in your school and the surrounding schools as well. If you are a fat dude, or a bookworm nerd, this car might help you keep your band geek girlfriend for a year instead of a couple weeks before she leaves you for an Alpha.

Eighteen to Thirty: After High School, nice cars don't get you girls. You might get more smiles at intersections, but really not many more girls. The girls you have in your life have been in cool cars forever, with all kinds of guys. You are not impressing them. A nice car is simply sprinkles on the icing on the cake that is you. Your money is better spent on nice clothes and going out. The money you spend on this car will eat you alive financially so you'll be a prisoner in your own shitty apartment, praying no one in the complex fucks with your shit. The payments leave you constantly broke, so you will go through gf's leaving you because "We never do anything. I'm tired of sitting around the house." You will be happier with a reasonable car with under $200 payments.

Thirty to Fifty: You aren't impressing anyone. If you want a nice car, get a decent Mercedes or truck and keep it clean. If you like sports cars, then it should be an incidental cool extra like you're favorite jacket. If she compliments it, then don't start talking about the Porsche club you're in, just say "Thanks, it's a lot of fun."

Bachelor's Guide to Boy Toys (Part 4)

2009-12-16T14:31:00.003-06:00

Old/Wannabe Sports Car
Girl Gain: -15% (that's NEGATIVE)

Cost: Purch: $3-10k

Damn. you ALWAYS WANTED a Corvette/Porsche/300z, etc. Yeah, it's an '84, but Damnit, it's a CLASSIC. I mean, it's got a lot of miles, but I could fix it up. I'm good at this stuff. Girls will LOVE this.

Cost: Monthly: $200-500
No matter how much you spend, it's never enough. This is how much you could spend every month for three years straight, and it will still NEVER BE ENOUGH. You will always be broke and it will hang around your neck like a fucking anchor until you finally just kiss the cash you paid plus everything you've sunk into away.

Age Ranges:
Five to Fifteen: You try to fix up dad's old whatever, or the car you "bought" for $200 that just needs an engine/tranny/tires/interior/etc.

Fifteen to Eighteen: You buy one and drive it for three weeks to two months until whatever breaks on it that costs $2000 to fix plus labor. You have no car for a while until you get something that actually runs.

Eighteen to Thirty: You forget about the first mistake and buy another one. It breaks also, and now you are wiser.

Thirty to Forty-Five: You try to help your friends/kids fix their turd up. If you do manage to get it running, they immediately sell it, pissing you off because you did so much to help them get it running.

Forty-Five to Eighty: You only buy cars that are new or classics that have been completely restored with receipt history. You are wise.

Note: At no time did this get you any additional sex or girls. No matter what they tell you about liking it, or even if they buy you little parts for it, they hate it and resent you for spending money on it. This DID however, keep you broke and shortened your relationships because you could have been spending the money on fun/vacations with women.

Bachelor's Guide to Boy Toys (Part 3)

2009-12-16T14:14:00.005-06:00

Jeep Wrangler
Girl Gain: +15%

Cost: Purch: $5-25k.

You can get an old one, but don't. Get a new or newer one with a minimum of A) Hard full doors B) Full size tires or bigger. Don't get the dorky pussy Jeep thinking you'll upgrade it. You won't. Get the one you want. It's ALWAYS cheaper that way.

Cost: Monthly: $350-500
Always shoot for one to five years or newer. They are really low maintenance and reliable as long as they aren't ragged out old ones.

Age Ranges:
Five to Fifteen: Grow up kid, toys are for big boys. Go to college.

Fifteen to Eighteen: Even fat kids and bookworms get instant Alpha cred with a Jeep. It also gives you a party guy/fun guy cred. If you drive a Wrangler, people assume you are having more fun than them. This will increase your coolness by 20-40% regardless. You will bang a lot of girls and make a ton of friends. The top tier girls may still be off limits that you could have gotten with the new sports car, but if you are already an Alpha guy, this is your best bang for the buck. (Pun intended)

Eighteen to Sixty: You are automatically a cool, outdoorsy, fun, adventurous guy. Take advantage of this truck to always pack it full of girls and friends. Take girls on camping trips, go 4wheeling, hop curbs in the city. A Jeep won't help you meet girls, but it'll help you keep them. It helps maintain "fun" over the length of the relationships.

Bachelor's Guide to Boy Toys (Part Two)

2009-12-15T17:11:00.008-06:00

Here are some common boy toys and the real skinny on having them. *Part Two*

Hot Tub
Girl Gain: +20%

Cost: Purch: $1-3k
Get as new as you can afford. Nothing is as expensive as a cheap Porsche or Hot Tub. Tub $1k, Wiring, $400, Misc stuff $500 (gadgets/chemicals/tools/etc)

Cost: Monthly: $100
Hopefully you paid cash, so with water treatment, additional power costs, and miscellaneous things to keep one ready to party all the time, this is fair.

Age Ranges:
Five to Fifteen: You will get some SERIOUS games of doctor going with a lot of girls. You will probably see real live grown up woman boobies. When it's time to pick Dad's nursing home, remember when he hooked YOU up back in the day.

Fifteen to Eighteen: Any time you get the tub alone, no girl is safe. Invite girls and tell them to bring their friends!

Eighteen to Twenty-Two: College + hot tub = Pretty much everything you had wet dreams about from the time you hit puberty.

Twenty-Three to Forty: You will have young (18-25yo) girls doing whatever you want, whenever you want, on command. You earned it, enjoy it.

Forty+: Be careful not to be "Creepy swinger single old guy". Don't mention you have a hot tub. Just be social, have a lot of friends, and let THEM recommend things move to the tub. Any woman over twenty eight is putty in your hands. Girls under that will be creeped out being in there if you're around, and really just want you to leave so they can fuck their boyfriends in it.

Bachelor's Guide to Boy Toys

2009-12-15T16:29:00.012-06:00

Here are some common boy toys and the real skinny on having them. *Part One*

Motorcycle:
Girl Gain: +15%
Cost: Purch: $4-8k
Get a nice used bike, NOT a new one. You WILL crash it a few times. Save the extra money for gear/extras.
Cost: Monthly: $150-200 When you count the payments, plus insurance and maintenance (tires/maintenance/etc), You're going to even out to about $200 a month to own a rideable, decent bike.

Age Ranges:
Five to Fifteen: You will get more kisses from girls.

Fifteen to Eighteen: You will get more action from girls. You will hang out with older guys that give you access to older girls.

Eighteen to Twenty-Seven: You will realize that most "biker" chick groupies are pretty gross and dirty. Normal non-biker girls will love riding with you, hitting on you, and making their friends jealous because you have a "hot" bike and are therefore a "hot" guy. This is the sweet spot. This also gives you real street cred because you're the real deal and not a poser. Note: Crotch rockets get you 40% hotter, and 75% more girls on average than cruisers. Avoid really old (read: Older than ten years) bikes if at all possible. It needs to be shiny and pretty or girls don't dig it.

Twenty-Seven to Thirty-Five: The bike will allow you to still regularly entertain young (18-25) girls. Your ass is too old to be at the night club, so make sure you have adventures and danger to keep them excited. They don't give a fuck about your 401k or new furniture.

Thirty-six +: Keep riding! Your bike will keep you cool, while hanging out with active and financially stable people (or they couldn't afford the bikes). This also keeps your girl (25+) happy because she can be friends with the other gf/wives in a social setting. This additionally gives you reasons to spend a lot of time together and do small mini-vacations (bike trips to next state, bed and breakfasts,etc).

Advanced Eye Contact

2009-12-11T17:20:00.002-06:00

So you think you have this "eye contact" thing down.

Great!

Here is a tip called "top down" eye contact. It's slightly more high value than you probably do it now. This is good for an extra couple points of Alpha. Try to work on it.

"Start with the very top of her head. When she looks at you, move your eyes quick DOWNWARD and lock gaze with her. When she looks away momentarily, bring your head right up to the top of her head level.

When she looks into your eyes again, you lower your eyes once more to connect to her eyes. In other words, your eyes are scanning from the TOP of her head, to her eye level and back to the top of her head."

The basic change is that you are now doing away with looking low or at the ground entirely. Alphas have their chins up because they are proud of who they are, and maintain eye contact with other men regularly. If you are starting from eyes down, and then bringing them up to hers, it's weaker than the top down.

Try it, you'll like it.

Additionally, remember that when you look directly and potently into a woman's eyes, her body produces chemicals like Phenyl Ethylamine (PEA). It jolts the sensation of being in love. It's one of the reasons you felt SO CONNECTED to the other person when you last did Ecstasy. It widens the pupils, drawing your gaze, which starts the PEA pump.

PEA is one of the chemicals you feel during that "God I'm soooo in love" phase the first few months of a relationship.

Push eye contact about 75% of the time if you want to really get the PEA flowing in her veins.

Funny frame of mind

2009-12-11T16:52:00.010-06:00

You used to crack people up all the time, but you seem to struggle when trying to use your humor now. What happened?

Your humor is like any muscle. You have to use it or lose it.

Here are some easy ways to get it back quick!

(Credit to Don Juan)

1) Listen to and watch comedy whenever you can. NO sitcoms. They are written by betas for betas. Stand up comedy works best. Only watch it if YOU find it funny. You will notice most of the really great comedians tell funny STORIES, not jokes.

2) Hang out with funny people! Haven't you noticed how your funny friends have funny dads/aunts/uncles? That's because they spend every waking moment with them.

3) Make a habit of listening to the comedy channel on XM/Serius if you have it now and again. If you don't have that, go rent some great stand up. Eddie Murphy, Richard Pryor, Robin Williams, or whoever you like. Plus it's hysterical.

4) Listen to comedy in the morning on the way to work/school. Whether it's your CD or something on XM. NOT fucking morning shows. That is exactly the WRONG kind of humor. It'll put you in a funny frame of mind and you can use it to practice making people laugh.

5) Do not "tell jokes". (Two seals walk into a club..) You are not her Grandpa.

6) Don't get intimidated if you don't get a laugh. Ignore it and move on like it didn't happen, maintaining a great mood. If you are being funny and having a good time, you literally don't even have to make sense and she/they will be laughing with you to maintain the fun vibe you're putting off.

7) Don't try too hard. If you are TRYING to make people laugh, you will bomb spectacularly. You are having such a great time, you are bringing them into your fun world, not impressing or entertaining.

8) Shatter expectations. Comedy is all about looking at the world from a different perspective. When you give them a glimpse from your point-of-view, you get laughs!!

Slacks are BACK

2009-12-10T16:32:00.001-06:00

Slacks are in for casual wear.

Grey goes with everything. Brown also is a strong statement this fall. Feel free to pick up a few different shades.

You want to make sure you DON'T wear a belt, but that they simply fit your waist.

Express carries these for around a hundred, and they are machine washable. This is a bargain, as they are sharp, versatile, and less expensive than a decent pair of designer jeans.

Kylee's Travel Adventure!!

2009-12-10T10:51:00.012-06:00

Two young American girls, seeking fun, adventure, and a whole lot of penis.

Kylee's Travel Adventure!

Remember, you may THINK you want the truth about that AMAZING summer she spent traveling. You don't.

Click here for all your pain to go away

2009-12-10T01:09:00.003-06:00

Here's a link that will finally give you a place to bury your pain. You've been hurt, but now you must conquer and destroy. Take all your hurt and pain, gather it all, and unleash it riiiiiiight

HERE.

You feel better now.

Word from a new guy.

2009-12-09T23:44:00.001-06:00

The Professional and the Natural have literally changed my value of life. One of the key things I learned about is the notorious shit test. I kept doing things for girls that I thought were nice, that would set me apart from the other guys... You know, trying to be the perfect man, but instead of falling for me, they ran away from me. It's because I bored the shit outta them. One day, the professional told me I was getting destroyed by the female shit tests. So we went out, and every time a girl tried to run a shit test, the professional would tell me. And then he would knock her test outta the park, and the girl would pull a 180 and be on him. It took about a week for me to be able to notice the tests, but once i got it, my game changed in a big way.

Here's an example, exactly as it went down:

Her: "Hey, why don't you do this..."

Me: (Stare Down)

Her: (stares back but looks away)

Me: "Hey girl, let's share your drink. Oh, and let me get a cigg."

They want to test you, to see if they can bitch you. You just have to hold your ground and not give them an inch. And its even better if when you get them to share their shit with you. It makes no sense, but it drives them crazy.

Dating girls at your company

2009-12-09T15:48:00.008-06:00

Here's a question recently asked about how to ask out a girl at work. He isn't sure she is into him, but he wants to take a shot.

There's this really cute girl at work. We have an alright rapport, but she's definitely been hit on a time or two and knows the game. (she's a sales rep and travels a lot)
I'd like to pursue this to see where it goes, but I have never successfully done a work hookup, or really even tried. I do better in the wild, especially bars and restaurants.

TBL approved answer:

Don't shit where you eat, regardless of how hot she is.
Don't shit where you eat, regardless of how hot she is.
Don't shit where you eat, regardless of how hot she is.

If you can't help yourself, then come off as a guy that has really fun stuff going on all the time with your friends after work. Your social circle is fun and cool, she's fun and cool.

"You should come out! We're getting together at X bar for wings and to watch the game. My buddy is bringing some girl. He said she's pretty I guess so help me out if she's ditzy or a stalker or something."
Now you are:
A) Fun
B) Have friends
C) Not asking her out either way
D) You date pretty girls.
E) You screen out pretty girls if they don't pass muster, (ditzy, stalker, etc). Therefore, you must be a high value guy to be able to screen out pretty girls.
F) There's actually no girl, but now she's with you there so SHE's the girl.
G) You've established you're single and open to a new relationship.
F) You guys are working as a TEAM.
H) She's not on the spot since you've disqualified yourself.
I) Even if she isn't feeling you, she might be interested in meeting your friends, who she will assume are the same attractiveness and coolness level as you. This is a further draw for her, and since you've disqualified yourself, if she actually isn't really feeling you, you are still "in" her social circle so you get a shot at all her cute girlfriends.

Either way it's win/win for everyone. You are bringing her value, getting a shot a multiple girls, bringing your buddies value as they get a shot at her girlfriends. It also increases your value as a social connector, which everyone wants to keep as friends.

The ugly truth about attractive women

2009-12-09T14:14:00.009-06:00

This is going to hurt.

The below hold true for most women in varying degrees as a direct function of how attractive they are. On average, truly ugly woman may only have a few of these traits, however, truly hot women typically have most of these and more.

The difference really stems from how much of a sociopath they have been allowed to be since they were young. If you are beautiful, you have almost zero real consequences to your actions regardless of how evil or self centered they are. If you constantly do whatever you want and have literally ninety percent of the planet waiting in line to be near you regardless, it tends to warp your sense of right and wrong. The only wrong things are things that don't make you happy.

You may at first glance believe that this is simply a bitter man making things up, however women, and men who are around a lot of attractive women, will recognize their accuracy immediately.

As a man, you must ask yourself "Is this what I want?" Every man struggles with this. We all want a Ferrari, but we don't want the headaches and cost. None of us want the base model Ford, but we love the zero maintenance and that it's paid off. No one said it's easy kid. - Bon

(Below is from the epic post by Mark over at The Better Beta.)

1. They don’t love you. They are in love with love.
Those doughy eyes that glow forth with a passion that could traverse the whole of space and time come as standard as seatbelts in a minivan. It was already in them long before you walked into the picture. You’re not special, you just happened to meet them when they had an opening. They are determined to fall in love and be in love, and you simply fit the bill for now. If they can get you to marry them, they win. If not, they have yet another story of an immature man who was scared of commitment to bitch about. Either way, they win.
2. "Just As I Am.”
You must take her as she is. Any due diligence, shit testing, or investigation on your part will be met with hostility most foul. She is unique, special, more than you deserve, and altogether lovely. You will take her just as she is, or you’re an inconsiderate immature asshole. She’ll work on your numerous faults later, after you acknowledge this eternal truth.
3. They think they’re smarter than you.
They know your faults, they know how much of a bitch your mom and sister are, and they know exactly what you should do about it. They control the relationship, and you’re nothing but a pawn in their sick chess game. Right now, the only game is to get you to commit forever. After that, their unbridled wisdom will be granted to you on a daily basis and forcefully applied to every aspect of your life.
4. Most of the time, they actually are smarter than you.
He may not always go down without a fight, but he usually goes down. You wouldn’t believe the shit these girls get their guys to do. Amazing, and sad.
5. It is indeed your fault.
Every instance where she’s gone up against an Alpha with a backbone and lost (got hurt) is your fault, and you will pay greatly to ensure the remission of his sins. Every argument is directly related to your lack of communication and understanding. Even the 2% of arguments you think you’ve won are merely her granting you a win because of your stunted, ill man brain.
6. There’s a difference between getting married and being married.
At a ratio of 1,000 to 1, I hear conversations about getting married versus actually being married. She wants the party, the handsome groom, and all eyes on her. She’ll have plenty of time to whip you into shape after the fact. She owns your ass then, so married life should be a grand adventure for her and doesn’t require an ounce of thought from her pretty little head. She can always leave you and take your kids and half your shit if it doesn’t work out. So really, outdoing her bitch best friend’s ceremony and reception is all that matters.
7. Sex is an important aspect of love…and lust…and boredom…and learning…and growing…and expression…and revenge…and power…and loneliness…and happiness…and sadness…and self validation…and tropical vacations…and down time between boyfriends…etc.
Need I say more? Chances are your sweetheart is more than a few locker room stories. I have learned that the “rule of two”, which is dividing the partners a man claims by two, and multiplying the number the girl claims by two may not always hold true – many of them think they are still a virgin if they’re under 20 partners. However, I can certainly confirm that “blow jobs don’t count”. So she may have “only” slept with 18 men, but that doesn’t account for all the dick that’s entered her body in one form or another. Of course, you’d come closer to finding Jesus Christ in line for a Starbucks at the mall than you would finding out the truth about her cock intake by asking, so just listen for clues and form your own opinion.
8. They show you off just as much as you show them off.
They don’t ask their friends “what do you think of him?” because they want an earnest opinion. They ask because they want to make their girlfriends jealous. If they don’t see the envy in their friend’s eyes, you’re gone, buddy.
9. You will comply with her every wish, or you’re a selfish jerk.
50/50 partnership my ass. Its her way or you’re out…once she has your replacement in her pocket, of course.
10. Women give each other the worst dating advice imaginable.
I could write a book about the stupid shit I hear. My favorite is that when you find a man who could be “the one”, hold out on him in the bedroom for three months. Make him chase you for a while so that – and this is a direct quote – “he won’t think you’re trampy”.
11. They lie. My god, they lie.
The moment they feel something, it becomes truth. The moment something no longer tickles their emotions, it becomes a falsehood. They will lie, manipulate, and do whatever it takes to get what they want and honestly think nothing of it. After all, it can’t be a lie or manipulation if they’re being true to themselves (thanks Oprah). And as for how it affects the man, it matters not. Remember, they’re smarter than you, and their growth benefits you too. You should really thank her.
12. They hate your single friends.
The most positive thing I’ve heard about a man’s single friends in my three years at that company is “he’s ok, I guess, but [boyfriend] needs to distance himself from him because he’s not going in the same direction we are”. I could go on for ages with all the nasty things I’ve heard, and the plots to disassociate a man from a good friend he’s had since middle school.
13. They hate their own friends.

As King of the world, I would ban women from talking about how aggressive and hateful men are. Women are the most scheming, backbiting, twisted creatures on the planet. They actually hate their friends and are overcome with jealousy when anything good happens to their peers. I always have at least one trying to get the other fired…right before they go have their nails done together over lunch break. This is really the only time I actually find myself afraid of women. Their evil knows no bounds, and damn it, it scares me.
14. They overvalue themselves.
Many women literally think that God Almighty himself stepped out of nowhere onto nothing and created the universe just for them. They believe they are inimitable, distinctive creatures who should be referenced as a glowing and obvious example of all that a woman should be. When they say “You’ll never find another woman like me!” they actually believe it wholeheartedly. There is no one quite like them. They are irreplaceable, and if you’re not smart enough to recognize it, you’ll undoubtedly live a life of solitude and regret before dying a lonely old man with no one to take care of him.
15. Their perfect man will be greatly rewarded. Then eaten.
From what I’ve seen, the poor Beta men who comply with this laundry list of horse shit are heroes and become the standard by which their girlfriend’s friends will judge their potential suitors. But that only lasts for about two months until they get tired of his capitulating pansy ass and start longing for a real man to keep them in check. Then they devour the Beta carcass and head out looking for an Alpha to treat them badly so they have something to bitch about again.

TBL Crew answers Roissy game test

2009-12-09T09:24:00.004-06:00

The always excellent Roissy in DC occasionally posts a feature called "A Test of Your Game" where he sets up dating scenario shit tests that women will run on you, and invites his readers to answer them.

Seems like an interesting way to get a feel for your TBL authors by publishing both the question and our individual answers.

Here's his test scenario: Tonight, you are meeting a woman at a bar.
The woman is someone you’ve been dating for a few months. Expectations have been established. Not firm rules, but slowly congealing guidelines for acceptable behavior. She tells you she will be at this bar tonight with a former co-worker, a man you’ve never met, and she wants you to come out and meet her at the bar.

You say “Yeah, I’ll swing by later.” You’re an alpha; everything is always later.

When you arrive at the entrance of the bar, you spot your girl across the room. She's sitting on a barstool between two men. There are no other empty stools near them. They are all laughing and drinking amongst themselves. Your girl is looking good, her bright red lipstick a beacon in the dim bar light. They haven’t noticed you yet. You watch them for a second before proceeding into the room, dispassionately curious about their dynamic. Soon you will walk toward them – the two men flanking your woman whose vagina you have penetrated repeatedly and vigorously – with intentions to introduce yourself. You don’t know which of the men is her former co-worker, or who the other man might be. In fact, you don’t know anything of their synergy, but that you see their smiles and hear their laughter. You begin walking to them. What do you do?

Bon's Response:

First, when she told me she would be there with an old co-worker, I’d ask her “Oh, is he gay?”
Her: No, blah blah
Me: Oh, well you guys have fun. I’ve got shit to do.
Her: What? It’s not like that..blah blha
Me: Cool, ya, later.
Now, at this point she knows I’m not even going to START to fucking play with that bullshit and disrespect. I don’t care if it’s Jesus Christ returned.
She is a woman. She knows for GOT DAMN sure that isn’t cool. Even if it is a gay friend (which it isn’t), it’s a minimum a shit test, at medium a feeler on what she can pull with a guy she actually DOES want to fuck, and at most you’re already toast and she’s been letting that guy flirt/hit it for some time.
I wouldn’t even call her when she sends the “What’s wrong?” “Why are you being this way?” texts over the course of the night.
If you’ve been laying the pipe correctly (brutally and regularly for the first couple months) she’ll get the drama she’s craving by pulling this shit, from the worrying about you all night and how mad you are. Those guys’ game won’t match the gina tingle (Roissy TM) the drama gives her. DON’T ANSWER HER TEXTS. Short of her showing up at your house (where you dick her to death), she blew her communication privileges for the night, and maybe the next day or two.
When you DO talk to her in a day or two, you play it cool and alpha. Now she KNOWS two things.
A) You don’t give a FUCK.
B) She is replaceable
C) You don’t play when girls try that scandalous ass bullshit. You see it, and you know it, and you don’t play.

The Natural's Response:

Stop Masturbating

2009-12-08T12:39:00.004-06:00

Masturbation is hurting your game.

That's right, I said it. If you are spanking it during the day, and going out at night, you aren't hungry. You might think you are hungry, you might really want to eat, but you aren't STARVING. You aren't ready to to go knife to fucking throat against other men who ARE starving.

As Americans, we hardly ever REALLY feel true starvation hunger. Most of us never will. As a human man, you come from a long, long line of cave men that did WHATEVER IT TAKES to get fed. The descendants of the ones that did not, are no longer with us.

I spank it, you spank it, it feels good. It's also lazy. If you want the hunger, if you want the edge, you must fast on game day. If you're gaming tonight, you're not spanking today.

If you want more women in your life, you have to be fucking RUTHLESS. Just like the last three reps of the set are the ones where the gains are, it's that tough approach with bad logistics that turns into the date with the amazing girl.

Your caveman hunter forefathers knew that the man staying out till the absolute last wisp of daylight tracking the deer was the one that always got a little more. He WANTED it. He EARNED it, he WILL NOT STOP. His mind and his WILL gave him success.

She's sitting with her two ugly girlfriends in a quiet coffee shop? Fuck you. Go open them.

She's the checker at the grocery store and you'll be embarrassed if she shoots you down? Fuck you. Open her.

She's jogging past you in the opposite direction? OPEN HER.

If you aren't hungry, it's so easy to tell yourself "She's not all THAT cute, I've already got a date this weekend, Who cares if she's got the greatest smile on Earth..."

Fuck you. Stop spanking it. Go HUNT.

Day Game Classes This Weekend!!

2009-12-07T12:10:00.006-06:00

Sign up this week for our FREE day game class Saturday, Dec. 12th.

You will get free handouts on day game, a half hour of instructor time, and two hours of in field instruction. You will open at least five women and will receive personalized feedback on each interaction.

This will take place in NW Oklahoma City.

Class is capped at five men, so will fill up quick. Sign up NOW!

On Phone Numbers

2009-12-03T15:37:00.017-06:00

You're goal should always be at LEAST a makeout, NOT the number.

Her phone number is a consolation prize. The bronze medal. You are a GOLD MEDAL guy. Locate your balls, strap them on, make it happen.

To paraphrase the great Rooshv, "A guy that gets a makeout on the first meet, will have a second date that looks like the third date of a regular guy."

You're brain will tell you "Yeah, but what if I come off as a creep, or pushy, etc..etc..?" Chances are, you are no where NEAR the limit of what she's cool with.

When was the last time you got slapped for pushing too hard? Can't remember? It's not because you are such a nice quality guy, it's because you have no idea where the limits really are. You can't know until you get a feel for the edge.

MotoGP superbike motorcycle racers have a saying. "If you don't crash, you're not going fast enough." This holds true for pickup. Test the limits. If you get resistance, back off a bit. But do it a couple times with a couple different women. Get a feel for where the limit REALLY is. You're eyes will be opened by how much faster and further you can escalate. If you are confident and fun with it, she will go with it, and have fun too.

Her: "Wow, we're moving really fast."
You: (Strong eye contact) "You know, every passionate relationship I've ever had began passionately."
Her: *Smoochdown*

The New Pink

2009-12-02T07:44:00.015-06:00

If you haven't noticed, you're probably waiting for me to tell you this.
The hot pink and black trend is so in, straight guys can pull it off.

I'm obviously talking about hipsters or scene kids that have a questionable sexuality. So if you aren't comfortable with yours, don't wear it.

"Don't knock it until others do or you get your ass kicked a couple of times. Until you've tried it... just don't knock it. You never know who likes it around you."

Oh, and compliment a girl if you see her wearing hot pink and black.

Here's why:
From my vast expertise in the color wheel, these colors are so far opposite that the pairs'
pop make me have an epileptic seizure.

Seizure Footage (By the way, you're sick if you tried to click on the Seizure Footage.)

Socks and Slacks.

2009-12-01T15:44:00.006-06:00

Listen up before a gay guy has to let you know this.

For some this isn't a big deal, for others it is.

Socks match your slacks, not your shoes.

It doesn't have to match exactly, just within three shades.

You don't have to be gay to know art. Thanks.

Twenty Seconds

2009-12-01T12:58:00.010-06:00

Saw this post on a women's dating blog. It's a woman talking about how they know within twenty seconds if they are going to sleep with you or not.

"We know within 20 seconds. no, we don't know if we will marry you. But, we do know if we will have sex with you.
I can personally see a man on the street, look at him without having spoken a word to him, and know if i would have sex with him. If a woman has a general idea of what she is physically attracted to in a man, its an easy 20 second thought process. She looks, she contemplates, and she decides. Several guys i know could get it, based solely on attractiveness. It's when they start talking that the problems happen, but that is a whole 'nother blog."

Spoke to a few trusted female friends and they all confirmed this to be absolutely true 90% of the time.

Holy shit!

What does this mean to the game crowd? Does this mean game isn't important? I thought men were visual and women were emotional/verbal. So it actually IS all about looks?

Settle down. It is, but it isn't. Twenty seconds is a LONG time really. A guy knows if he's attracted in under five seconds. Here's the twenty second process for a woman:

I see him. :
1) Am I surprised by him in some way (we physically bump into each other, he pokes/playfully pushes/evokes an instant physical sensation that immediately creates sexual tension in my body that I can FEEL) If yes, then shortcut to attracted. If no, then begin logical evaluation.

2) Is he healthy looking? If yes, continue evaluation. If no, not attracted.

3) Is his body language good? If yes, 1/3 of attraction now complete. Continue evaluation. If no, ignore/screen.

4) Does he demonstrate non verbal equal or higher value than myself? (Good style, having fun, standing with other people of high value, cool guy friends/cute girls, etc.). If yes, 2/3 of attraction now complete. If no, screen (screening meaning shit tests, bitch shield, etc.)

5) Does he look like someone I could be seen with at a minimum, and best case I could impress my social circle by being with? If yes, attraction complete. If not, ignore.

This isn't that high of a bar really. Notice it didn't say "Is he a stud? Is he hot? etc." It really says "Does he meet the physical MINIMUM to LET MYSELF be attracted to him. If you don't pass these, she typically will not ALLOW herself to be attracted to you.

Even if you have GQ model looks, if you strike her as douchebag/sleazy/greasy then you have failed one of the steps (in this case #4&5) and she won't allow herself to be gamed by you.

At this point, it's in your hand to move through the rest of the emotional progression towards sex/dating.

(Diagram courtesy Love systems)

Your Bachelor Pad: Part One

2009-11-30T17:04:00.006-06:00

One of the things the TBL crew sees a lot of is men who don't understand advertising.

The way you dress is literally a walking billboard of who you are. If you wear a cowboy hat and Wranglers, you are telling women "I enjoy and live the cowboy lifestyle." If you wear a suit and tie and drive a Mercedes, you are telling women "I am a financially secure professional."

The way your bachelor pad is decorated is exactly the same thing. If you want an athletic college girl, you want your pad to reflect that you are active and probably living a life that is similar to how she's chosen to live hers.

This is part one of a series we'll be doing on decorating your pad. We'll try to break it out by age group and messaging.

As an example of an active lifestyle pad for the 18-24 crowd, here are some pics and info ripped from aguycallednick.com where he shows his old post college bach pad decor. The Natural currently has his pad decorated in this style since he is under twenty-five and lives a very active life heavily involved in extreme sports.

Note that almost everything in this place screams what he's about and what age group he belongs to. A college age girl and her friends will immediately feel comfortable in this apartment and want to hang out/party. The message isn't "Damn, look how smooth I am." The message is "Grab some beers, come over and hang out!"

If you want more info on the numbered pointers, Nick lays it out Here

How not to approach

2009-11-30T16:16:00.002-06:00

When approaching, having a few go to openers memorized will keep you from being this guy.

Also keep in mind, that if you aren't talking to the girls you are truly attracted to, and settling for girls that are "good enough", then you are selling yourself short. Grow a pair of balls, study some PUA material, and/or contact us directly for some inexpensive dating coaching.

Hot Tub Update

2009-11-30T15:53:00.004-06:00

The Eagle has landed.

She is now sitting safely in the garage. Gave her a deep scrub down cleaning and disinfectant bath.
We now need to have 220v power run to the patio, and have The Natural whip up a frame for it.

Ever wonder how a hot tub actually WORKS? So did we.
Found this amazing page over on Spadepot.com that has an interactive diagram of everything. Groovy baby!!. Oh yeah, and PH3AR the bubble sound effects on the blower.

Fall Hats

2009-11-25T14:49:00.011-06:00

So the holidays are already here. You can either spend the evenings with family listening to Aunt Mabel talk casserole, or you can round up all the cool cousins to GET OUT AND GO OUT!!

Here are some TBL approved men's hats to keep you in style.

Most of these can be found over at Hatsinthebelfry.com .
These are REALLY inexpensive, and an ESSENTIAL part of your wardrobe.

These are best paired with either a light jacket or if worn indoors at a bar, with a tight v neck t-shirt (you've been hitting the gym, right?) Tan, gray, and green are in this season.
Protip: Add a cool scarf for double style points.

Alpha Eye Contact

2009-11-23T17:11:00.007-06:00

Body language is one of the most powerful tools you have in your life.
It is conveyed instantaneously by a thousand small things. The way you stand, the way you walk, how much space you take up in the room, and everything else is instantly and constantly assessed by everyone around you. Men, women, children, adults, even dogs pick up where your social standing is based on your body language.

When we do dating/lifestyle coaching, this is one of the first things we change in our students. I'm a student of body language and closely study "naturals" whenever I see them to break down EXACTLY what they are doing that makes me classify them that way without knowing them.

Lately, I've been noticing a subtle, but consistent trend when it comes to eye contact. I call it the "persistent staredown". This is where you make eye contact with someone, and continue it even when they turn their head (whoever breaks eye contact first is the submissive. Between men, this indicates higher status. Between a man and a woman, it indicates her submitting to you. This is usually the first step in attraction. *Note: Do this to the wrong guy and you might find yourself in a fist fight.)

Here, we see Gerard Butler doing a series of dominant eye contact, and then keeping it focused even after she turns her head. She can still feel the stare, which is exciting and attractive.
Dominant Eye Contact:

Persistant Stare Down:

Something I find interesting is that alpha body language hasn't changed much in a long, long time. Notice anything similar?

Old School Alphas:

Old School Staredown:

Hot Tub Update

2009-11-23T13:25:00.000-06:00

Keeping you updated on the hot tub experience.

The TBL crew rolled out early Saturday morning to retrieve the hot tub.

The Good:
The tub is AWESOME. Huge, blue, nice. It even comes with a cover! It's a lot bigger than we thought. It's 8'x8'. That's a huge tub. Might cost a little more to keep heated, but it's definitely a party tub.

The Bad:
The truck we were going to use wasn't available at the last minute. The tub is so large it's iffy as to whether we can move it even with the big F350 we had. We are looking now at renting a flat bed pickup. Home depot has them for $20 an hour, and you can schedule a flat bed from Uhaul. We will call the hot tub moving service as well to see how much they charge. If it's under $300 it might make the most sense.

Your Mood is Contagious

2009-11-23T12:38:00.006-06:00

The single most unifying trait of an attractive person is that they are masters of making people feel good.

Want to be attractive to women? Become an expert in how to feel good. Always be having fun. At the bar, at the club, at your house, at work. You are smiling and laughing and even the smallest things are SO COOL. Everyone wants to hang out with that guy. Everyone wants to be around the person who they know will always be having a great time and be in the group that surrounds him.

Want to be the leader of your social group of guy friends? Become an expert in how to make other people feel good. Be excited about what they have going on. "Damn dude, that new haircut kicks ass!" "Wow, you just made the can in the trash from all the way across the room. No one makes it in less than three tries. You are the man!" If they have their friend or girlfriend with them even better, because then you are building them up in front of others which makes them feel GREAT. This is not kiss ass, this is acknowledging the cool things in people's lives. Know that when their girlfriend's hot friend is in town, that they'll bring them to YOUR house because he knows there is a positive energy and fun.

So many people get it confused when trying to be fun and popular. They think that if THEY are really cool, then people will like them. This is not correct. Popularity is a function of how cool you make OTHERS feel.

You must feel how you want others to feel. If you can't do that, then don't come into their world. Go do your walk by the lake with the dog, sing your favorite song in the car at full volume, THEN walk into their world.

What you want in a woman

2009-11-20T17:13:00.001-06:00

How can you find the right woman, if you don't know what you want?

When we do dating coaching for men, one of the first things we ask them is what type of woman they want. Most do not have a clear answer. The reason is that they have settled all their lives for which ever women chose them. As you begin to build a more attractive style, social circle, and life in general, you will find that suddenly you have much more choice in which women you date.

So what kind of woman do you REALLY want?

For every man that will be different. Here's a good start.

1. Adventurous
2. Challenging and keeps me on my toes
3. A strong woman that can stand her ground, but is and knows how to be feminine.
4. Extremely beautiful
5. Makes me desire her.
6. Amazing conversationalist
7. Positive thinker
8. Loving, caring, and accepts me for me.
9. Girl that's naughty and nice.
10. Amazing sexually - kissing, sex, etc.

Going out

2009-11-20T16:34:00.003-06:00

The TBL crew is going out tonight. Thought I'd throw a post up to get your mindset right when hitting the clubs.

This is quoted from Ratisse's ebook "Private confessions."

Mindset going into a club

I'm here to have fun. I'm here to provide value in the form of fun. I talk to lots of people. Those guys standing there clutching thier drinks, hoping something cools happens? Yeah, I'm here to brighten there day. I believe that these women love sex and they want some cool guy to take them home. Yeah, I'm that guy.

Tools and things I look for

When I'm walking around the club I scan for AI (attraction Indicators). When I see it from a girl I want to approach, I immediately go approach her, unless I'm in set with some other girls. I like approaching girls I get AI from because that phase of building attraction is already taken care of for me. I just have to maintain it to ramp it up.

When I'm in set with a girl I am constantly using my body language in a dominant, yet comfortable way for multiple purposes. One thru push/pull to keep her on her toes. I will show semi-disinterest through body language as a tool to show her she hasn't won me over. (Ex: While I'm speaking to her I am scanning the oom for AI from other girls). This example is powerful because it helps me on multiple levels.
1) By us being together, she is social proofing me to other girls which I can approach later.
2) I see these AI's from those girls so I know who to approach later.
3) Since I'm going ADD on her a bit, she now fights to get my attention back by touching me.
4) Shows that I'm not fully invested in this interaction and may leave at any moment.

After isolating, I drop in one or two stories from my life that will help build a stronger emotional connection with a girl.

Throughout the set I'm constantly priming a girl in order to do a couple things.
1) It lets her know where I'm directing this interaction.
2) It acts as a road map for me, telling me where I'm at in the interaction. (Ex: I tell a girl that "If we continue talking, we are going to end up making out.") In this example, her nonverbal reaction to what I've said gives me feedback as to how attracted to me she is, where I'm at in the interaction, and if I can proceed with what I just stated.

Finally, state control. I do my best to be that solid rock that waves crash upon. I try to project that no matter what she does or says, that she is not going to fuck my state up and make me crumble. I'm going to stay being this guy that's having a lot of fun.

Ten second kiss close

2009-11-19T17:06:00.004-06:00

Thought I'd post this for those that think it takes a long time to kiss a girl in day game.

This went down last night at a gas station in NW Oklahoma City around Eight.

Bon: Checking out at counter, no other customers, eye contact with clerk, slight smirk. "You want to hear a funny story about this place?
Rockergirlclerk: "About his place? Sure."
Bon: "Bout three years ago I came in here and it was empty like this and there was this REALLY cute blonde behind the counter. We had instant eye contact. There was something there. She knew it..and I knew it. It was just like.. That magic. You know when people just... connect? It was like that"
Rockergirlclerk: Nods, smiles, interested "Yeah."
Bon: Steps in gently, drawing her, starts circular gazing..right eye, lips, left eye..right eye, lips, left eye.. "Well, we just kept looking at each other, closer, and closer, both of us leaning in, didn't say anything, just leaning in..and we just kissed."
Rockergirlclerk: Leaned all the way over the counter about to fall over only about a foot between our noses, eyes as big as saucers, licks her lips ready for the kiss.
Belloverthedoor: **RINGRING!!** as a customer walks in, breaking the spell.

This should be a lesson. From hello to kiss close in under fifteen seconds. It can be done if you bring her into your world.

Hot tub!!

2009-11-19T16:15:00.000-06:00

As part of our selfless duties here at The Bachelor Life, we are compelled to occasionally field test certain questions of vital importance to the bachelor world.

The question du jour: "How awesome are hot tubs REALLY?"

We all have been to cool parties/hotels with hot tubs. We all know someone with one, but what's it like to own one YOURSELF? How does this change the game? How much does it cost to maintain REALLY? Is it an unending girl parade or a money pit pain in the ass?

These answers and more we'll track as part of *** Project Hot tub ***

It is a blue eight person tub sourced locally from craigslist. The TBL crew will be picking it up tomorrow. We are purchasing the shell/pumps/etc but will be building a custom cabinet for it to live in.

Oh, and if anyone wants to donate some of these, you get an automatic invite to the official TBL hot tub launch party in December!

Social Intuition Test

2009-11-18T13:26:00.000-06:00

So you think you are pretty good at reading people and or social situations. What is the situation in this picture?

I'll pick the best comments and post the best answers.

Men's Scarves

2009-11-17T16:15:00.001-06:00

Here's some quote love from hottie Isabella Snow on men and scarves. "Someone please tell me why more men don’t take advantage of automatic sex appeal?
Scarves are like dress shirts – every man can look good in one. scarves make you look good. In fact, the right scarf can make the average man twice as hot."

Askmen.com shows you how to unleash your inner pimp with a scarf.

Great looks

2009-11-17T15:42:00.000-06:00

Here are some great fashion looks for men and how to build them.

Kinowear.com Lookbooks

This one is awesome and works for 22-35yo men. Remember, classic always trumps trendy.

Beckham lookin good.

If you are a man, and do not own a scarf, your look is not current for Winter of '09

On Naturals

2009-11-17T14:18:00.000-06:00

One of the best things you can do is get some guy friends that are naturals. I have seen things happen with naturals that just do not happen to regular guys.

On Halloween day my good friend "The Natural" and I were in line checking out at the grocery store and the hottest little nineteen year old blonde in a Goldi locks costume actually hand signaled the bagger girl and cashier to not let us leave until she could get his number to go to whatever party he was going to. We weren't wearing costumes or flirting in any way. She simply saw two guys with alpha body language and instantly knew we were the kinds of guys that would be going to a kickass party that night.

The best part was that while she's giving us the number, two or three coworker guys are literally standing there going "What the fuck? We've been trying to get you to come out with us all week." Clearly these guys had been running their weak ass game on her from day one with no play and they saw us getting it gift wrapped on a silver platter. She didn't know anything about us but body language and eye contact.

You may ask yourself what he said to her to "game" her. Nothing. Literally. He just repeated her words back to her while keeping her eyes locked and maintaining body language.

Here's how it went down word for word.

Sacker girl: "Hey, my friend wants to you wait for a second she wants to talk to you."
Us: We both turn around and look at her working at the next lane.
The Natural: "Here we go.."
Goldi Locks: (Walks up to us, doggie dinner bowl eyes locked in TN's tractor beam eye contact) "What are you doing tonight?"
The Natural: (Almost smirk, low voice, stepped in close maybe four inches of distance nose to nose, circles her forcing her to turn to maintain eye contact) "What are YOU doing tonight?"
Goldi Locks: "Why don't you take my number? I get off at ten. I'll come party with you guys."
The Natural: "Give your number to my friend. Later."
Goldi Locks: "Ok. Call me. Really."
The Natural: Walks away while I get digits (and piss off all her lovestruck coworkers)

The power of having friends like this is that when you are in a similar situation you will know what to do and how to do it. I could go into all the technical things that happened in the interaction (forcing/testing compliance by making her turn, domination by stepping way inside her personal space, etc, etc) but with naturals you learn so much faster through examples.

Great Pickup Video

2009-11-17T13:59:00.001-06:00

This guy is a pickup artist. He talks about the mindset and reality of being a pickup artist. It's about an hour long, good info if you want a real insight into being a PUA.

Link goes to Charmingrogue's site.

Pickup Artist "Ratisse" on pickup and gaming

The first post

2009-11-17T11:25:00.000-06:00

So this is it. The first post.

This site is intended as the launch pad for men in Oklahoma City to take control of their lives. Dating, sex, social circles, success, clothes, life, and happiness. Here is where it begins.

I've just taken the first step. Will you? - Bon