A Strong Man

Many people believe you have to be aggressive or dominating to be an alpha, a leader, a strong man. 

This isn't always the case. Here's a truly good man who lead by example. He was a Marine sniper, and Vietnam veteran, and a good man.

From Mr. Rogers during his lifetime achievement award acceptance award speech:

He made a small bow and said into the microphone, "All of us have special ones who have loved us into being.  Would you just take, along with me, ten seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are?  Ten seconds of silence."  He then lifted his wrist, looked at the audience, looked at his watch, and said, "I'll watch the time."   There was, at first, a small whoop from the crowd, a giddy, strangled hiccup of laughter, as people realized that he wasn't kidding, that Mister Rogers was not some convenient eunuch, but rather a man, an authority figure who actually expected them to do what he asked.  And so they did.  Once second, two seconds, seven seconds -- and now the jaws clenched, and the bosoms heaved, and the mascara ran, and the tears fell upon the beglittered gathering like rain leaking down a crystal chandelier.  And Mister Rogers finally looked up from his watch and said softly, "May God be with you." to all his children.

Fred Rogers. RESPECT. 

Credit: iStig for the link

Man enough to date a tall woman?

Saw this great article over at cnn.com written by a tall woman on dating her. Tweaked it. Read below.
 
Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. One of the rarest, and most rewarding, is a tall woman.

Their long, beautiful bodies are the thing of mens' dreams and fantasies. They look good in anything, but when they dress to enhance their long legs, common men literally walk into walls and lose all ability to think or function.

It takes a lot of self confidence for a man to date a tall woman. If you don't have self confidence, you probably won't survive the first few interactions.

If you have your inner game on lock, you should truly know that most people have the same basic needs and desires. They want to have fun, feel good, and be with someone attractive that brings value to their lives.

This is no different for stunningly beautiful women.

Don't change the way you talk to someone based on how they look. Talk to them like a regular person, because that's who they are. If you are not truly self confident, then you are in for a short, miserable relationship. Tall women typically have tall friends. This includes guy friends. You are wasting your time if you keep any type of insecurity in yourself. She is with YOU, not THEM, because she likes WHO you are and how you make her FEEL .  Nothing is as big a turnoff to a girl as having to constantly reassure a weak, insecure guy.

Keep this in mind as well. When you show up with that tall, stunningly beautiful woman on your arm, everyone is thinking the same thing: "How the hell did he pull THAT?"  Everyone is going to assume it's money, or power, or whatever they want to make up. The truth is usually simply that they have fun together, and he's a confident man that understands she's a normal person who just happens to be tall.

If you don't make it a big deal, it's not a big deal.  Relax! If you want to keep around some boots to even you guys out, it should be simply as a courtesy to her to help her not feel awkward in social situations, not to calm your fragile ego. She's fine with the fact she's tall. Let it be fine for you.

As kids, tall girls get teased for their height.  Not everyone is 5'10 in the eight grade.  If you love her height, let her know! Don't make a spectacle of it. She'll love you for it.

Now get out there, and go get the tall, beautiful, girl of your dreams.  







Chances are she's waiting for you -- with her heels on.

Improving your life

Improving your life has to be a total effort.

Learning to meet people isn't enough. You have to improve who you are.  This includes changing what you do.

Women CRAVE a man that is active and outdoors. They want to be that themselves, so they are looking for a man who lives that lifestyle and will bring them into that world.

You want to be doing things that are fresh and exciting and will make that girl "God, I can't WAIT to tell my girlfriends I met this cool guy that's into "insert active lifestyle activities here".

One of the most fun, exhilarating things you can get into is the new sport of kitesurfing.  Not only is it reasonably priced to get into ($1200-1500ish for full size kitesurfing. $150ish for trainer kites, learning), it's also something you'll truly love and have a passion for.

It's win/win on a number of levels.

A) You are out in the sun getting a tan

B) You are outside

C) You are surrounded by other healthy, active guys. This means instant social circle.

D) You aren't sitting around shitty gas stations with the bike or car club.

E)  You are teaching her something, and bringing her into a world she's never experienced.

F) It's hardcore cardio, which means you're getting into and maintaing great shape.

G) You get in touch with nature and yourself. It's all on you. Succeed or fail, crash hard, or touch the face of God.

H) Make this your world. Kitesurfing


You don't have to live somewhere tropical. We live in the middle of Oklahoma City, and kite surf at the city lake. It's AMAZING and there are thousands of people there every nice day watching and wishing they were flying with us.

If you can't afford to go full pop into it, go order a two meter trainer kite and take it to the park/lake. As you learn to fly it, and start having fun with it, you'll notice people coming up and opening YOU. Girls, guys, families, everyone. It's amazing to watch these fly, and everyone (including beautiful, fit, outdoorsy girls) will want to learn.

It's up to YOU to decide who to have friendly conversations with, and who to spend the afternoon teaching.

The Natural

The Natural wrote down a few thoughts that bear posting.

You hear about true naturals a lot in pickup. You wonder what makes them a "natural" when social vibing and instinct is so tough for you.  Naturals understand basic things about interacting with people and have completely internalized them. You can see that they are basic but true. Most core truths are.

Sometimes it's the basics that you have to remind yourself of:

Give examples of  how you want to be treated. How can someone know if you're even capable of showing compassion if you, yourself, don't show compassion to others?

To make friends all one has to do is show an example of how you want to be treated.

You make friends the same way you make lovers.  Treat someone you want contact with the same way you, yourself, would want to be treated.

If you're a guy and you want to show a girl you care about her, then you show a soft, loving, caring, and compassionate side of yourself.

We all have different feelings inside of us and they are closely related to how we treat others.

The better you treat others, the better you yourself feel.

Say what you mean.

Do not lie just to spare feelings.

It's better not to speak if only bad will be the end result.

Why bring bad when the choice to do right is for the good of all.

To hate others is keeping in the good.  Let out the positive and reinforcing words into the world, or negativity will come in to replace the good.

Let your light shine, and bring peace and happiness.

Evil is only present when good is not around.

Positivity repels Evil.

The light is the only thing that brings clarity to see what is happening.

Be cool to others instead of just trying to piss people off.

Because that's just not cool motherfuckers! xx

Note: These are actual pictures of TN flying a 2meter at Kite point, Lake Hefner (Oklahoma City) 3-29-10. The best things in life are simple and free.

Being Goofy

If you boil pickup and seduction down to the absolute root base, it's this:

Become and expert in how to feel good.

Feel good yourself, and people will gravitate to you. Be an expert in making them feel great about themselves and being around you in general, and you will succeed in women, work, life, and everything else.

Being goofy and fun is not lowering your value, it's increasing it because you are increasing the good feelings surrounding you and them.

Here are some pictures to get you in the proper goofy, fun mood.

The Seventh

I don't know about you but it is pay day and the only thing I can think about spending my money on is rewarding my self for working hard! So, if you are out there running your own business or getting paid to do the work for someone Else's business, I say give your self props!

If you know a lazy person that is capable of work and doesn't have any money and just doesn't want to work to pay off their bills... Good luck to them, they will need it!

my favorite quote applies here,

"America, your free but that sandwich is about tree fiddy."
TN-

Ten Rules of Feeling Good

1. Make yourself feel good first.
2. Never try to make anyone feel bad.
3. Try to make everyone around you feel good.
4. Making other people around you feel good makes YOU feel good. Even making others feel good is a semi-selfish gesture.
5. You NEVER sacrifice your own good feelings to make another person feel good.
6. You don't feel negative emotions, except when doing so makes you feel good.
7. You don't try to fix problems. You try to make people feel better about them.
8. If it's not your job, don't try to go logical or problem solve issues around. It's not fun.
9. Never look down on anything. Be indifferent about stuff that you don't like.
10. If you're failing to keep one of those rules, that's okay as long as you keep the appearance that you're following them.

The ideal kind of fun comes from a leader who engages in "mutual value escalation".  This is where someone makes someone else feel good, and themselves feel good at the same time.

Why do women love gay guys so much? They follow the feel-good plan, and mutually value escalate A LOT.

Example: "OH-MY-GOD! You're SO Pretty!"

TBL Guide to Confidence: Big Trouble in Little China Edition

Unshakeable confidence.

Some guys are born with it. Some guys learn it. Women love it. You need it.

They aren't any different than you, but they BELIEVE with every part of their existence that they really ARE capable of doing anything. They CREATE the world that supports this belief. And you know what? You'll follow them to the gates of Hell.

George S. Patton, the most famous general of WWII, was asked "Did you feel confident you could lead the allied forces?" He replied "Well, some son of a bitch had to do it. Why not me?"

Here's one of my favorite movie heroes, Jack Burton, in "Big trouble in little China."  He's just a truck driver, but in almost every scene he has a crowd of people backing him up or following him. Why? CONFIDENCE.

When you have confidence, you're the leader of men, get the girl, save the day, and most importantly, you get your God damn truck back.



"Everybody relax, I'm here."

Like I told my last wife, I says, "Honey, I never drive faster than I can see. Besides that, it's all in the reflexes."

Uncle Chu: What the hell is Gracie Law doing here?
Jack Burton: She can't get enough of me.
Gracie: Hah! He wishes.

"When some wild-eyed, eight-foot-tall maniac grabs your neck, taps the back of your favorite head up against the barroom wall, and he looks you crooked in the eye and he asks you if ya paid your dues, you just stare that big sucker right back in the eye, and you remember what ol’ Jack Burton always says at a time like that: ‘Have ya paid your dues, Jack?’ ‘Yes sir, the check is in the mail."

Jack Burton: Just remember what ol' Jack Burton does when the earth quakes, and the poison arrows fall from the sky, and the pillars of Heaven shake. Yeah, Jack Burton just looks that big ol' storm right square in the eye and he says, "Give me your best shot, pal. I can take it."

Gentlemen, I am Paradox

I'm Paradox, I'm the latest guest writer here on TBL. I'll be posting must have advice for any new, existing, or established Seduction Scientist, that, from other sources would normally cost a fortune. Every week (check regular, I'm rather spontaneous) I'll post a nice, short, to the point tip you can introduce to your game, no matter what level you are, alongside my unique flowchart lesson strategy, helping to build 100% natural game.

Here's your first TBL exclusive tip: Read the blog! Knowledge is power!

I came to this realisation on my first true sarge. I'd read Mystery Method, Double Your Dating, and of course, The Game. I could open, comfort, and close. Yet, I lacked what I truly desired. A sense for what to do next all natural have. This comes only with knowledge. Pick a trustworthy source of information, and spend just a few minutes, on your mobile, computer, whatever, reading a few tips. It'll make you more confident, better able to cope with unpredictable scenarios (aka, women ;P) and, it'll keep you up to date with the latest developments in the field.

Merry Christmas, eat, drink and get sarging,

Paradox

A Very Merry Christmas!!

Hey, have a really REALLY great Christmas this year.

Most years you never know how it's going to go. This year try to MAKE it good by really bringing happiness and a good time to everyone around you.






Much love. - The Bachelor Life crew

Tattoo Guide

This should help you out if you're considering a new tattoo. You can also use this as a pocket reference in field.

Credit:  http://jotterofarotter.blogspot.com/

Click here for all your pain to go away

Here's a link that will finally give you a place to bury your pain. You've been hurt, but now you must conquer and destroy. Take all your hurt and pain, gather it all, and unleash it riiiiiiight

HERE.

You feel better now.

Day Game Classes This Weekend!!

Sign up this week for our FREE day game class Saturday, Dec. 12th.

You will get free handouts on day game, a half hour of instructor time, and two hours of in field instruction. You will open at least five women and will receive personalized feedback on each interaction.

This will take place in NW Oklahoma City.

Class is capped at five men, so will fill up quick. Sign up NOW!

Your Bachelor Pad: Part One

One of the things the TBL crew sees a lot of is men who don't understand advertising.

The way you dress is literally a walking billboard of who you are. If you wear a cowboy hat and Wranglers, you are telling women "I enjoy and live the cowboy lifestyle." If you wear a suit and tie and drive a Mercedes, you are telling women "I am a financially secure professional."

The way your bachelor pad is decorated is exactly the same thing. If you want an athletic college girl, you want your pad to reflect that you are active and probably living a life that is similar to how she's chosen to live hers.

This is part one of a series we'll be doing on decorating your pad. We'll try to break it out by age group and messaging.

As an example of an active lifestyle pad for the 18-24 crowd, here are some pics and info ripped from aguycallednick.com where he shows his old post college bach pad decor. The Natural currently has his pad decorated in this style since he is under twenty-five and lives a very active life heavily involved in extreme sports.

Note that almost everything in this place screams what he's about and what age group he belongs to. A college age girl and her friends will immediately feel comfortable in this apartment and want to hang out/party. The message isn't "Damn, look how smooth I am." The message is "Grab some beers, come over and hang out!"

If you want more info on the numbered pointers, Nick lays it out Here

Your Mood is Contagious

The single most unifying trait of an attractive person is that they are masters of making people feel good.

Want to be attractive to women? Become an expert in how to feel good. Always be having fun. At the bar, at the club, at your house, at work. You are smiling and laughing and even the smallest things are SO COOL. Everyone wants to hang out with that guy. Everyone wants to be around the person who they know will always be having a great time and be in the group that surrounds him.

Want to be the leader of your social group of guy friends? Become an expert in how to make other people feel good. Be excited about what they have going on. "Damn dude, that new haircut kicks ass!" "Wow, you just made the can in the trash from all the way across the room. No one makes it in less than three tries. You are the man!" If they have their friend or girlfriend with them even better, because then you are building them up in front of others which makes them feel GREAT. This is not kiss ass, this is acknowledging the cool things in people's lives. Know that when their girlfriend's hot friend is in town, that they'll bring them to YOUR house because he knows there is a positive energy and fun.

So many people get it confused when trying to be fun and popular. They think that if THEY are really cool, then people will like them. This is not correct. Popularity is a function of how cool you make OTHERS feel.

You must feel how you want others to feel. If you can't do that, then don't come into their world.  Go do your walk by the lake with the dog, sing your favorite song in the car at full volume, THEN walk into their world.

What you want in a woman

How can you find the right woman, if you don't know what you want?

When we do dating coaching for men, one of the first things we ask them is what type of woman they want. Most do not have a clear answer. The reason is that they have settled all their lives for which ever women chose them. As you begin to build a more attractive style, social circle, and life in general, you will find that suddenly you have much more choice in which women you date.

So what kind of woman do you REALLY want?

For every man that will be different. Here's a good start.

1. Adventurous
2. Challenging and keeps me on my toes
3. A strong woman that can stand her ground, but is and knows how to be feminine.
4. Extremely beautiful
5. Makes me desire her.
6. Amazing conversationalist
7. Positive thinker
8. Loving, caring, and accepts me for me.
9. Girl that's naughty and nice.
10. Amazing sexually - kissing, sex, etc.

The first post

So this is it. The first post.

This site is intended as the launch pad for men in Oklahoma City to take control of their lives. Dating, sex, social circles, success, clothes, life, and happiness. Here is where it begins.

I've just taken the first step. Will you? - Bon