Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Dating girls at your company



Here's a question recently asked about how to ask out a girl at work. He isn't sure she is into him, but he wants to take a shot.

There's this really cute girl at work. We have an alright rapport, but she's definitely been hit on a time or two and knows the game. (she's a sales rep and travels a lot)
I'd like to pursue this to see where it goes, but I have never successfully done a work hookup, or really even tried. I do better in the wild, especially bars and restaurants.

TBL approved answer:

Don't shit where you eat, regardless of how hot she is.
Don't shit where you eat, regardless of how hot she is.
Don't shit where you eat, regardless of how hot she is.

If you can't help yourself, then come off as a guy that has really fun stuff going on all the time with your friends after work. Your social circle is fun and cool, she's fun and cool.

"You should come out! We're getting together at X bar for wings and to watch the game. My buddy is bringing some girl. He said she's pretty I guess so help me out if she's ditzy or a stalker or something."
Now you are:
A) Fun
B) Have friends
C) Not asking her out either way
D) You date pretty girls.
E) You screen out pretty girls if they don't pass muster, (ditzy, stalker, etc). Therefore, you must be a high value guy to be able to screen out pretty girls.
F) There's actually no girl, but now she's with you there so SHE's the girl.
G) You've established you're single and open to a new relationship.
F) You guys are working as a TEAM.
H) She's not on the spot since you've disqualified yourself.
I) Even if she isn't feeling you, she might be interested in meeting your friends, who she will assume are the same attractiveness and coolness level as you. This is a further draw for her, and since you've disqualified yourself, if she actually isn't really feeling you, you are still "in" her social circle so you get a shot at all her cute girlfriends.

Either way it's win/win for everyone. You are bringing her value, getting a shot a multiple girls, bringing your buddies value as they get a shot at her girlfriends. It also increases your value as a social connector, which everyone wants to keep as friends.

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