The power of a makeover

Why do wealthy girls/women look so good compared to regular women?

Are they just from a better gene pool?
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The answer is usually simply money.

They can afford maintenance (teeth/hair/nails/products), and they have women around them who can show them how to use these expensive things to increase their social value.

The above is an excellent demonstration of what happens when you take lower middle class women and process them with a makeover from a very high end salon. Six or seven hundred dollars for just the hair alone is what you are seeing here. Add the makeup/clothes/etc and you're into thousands.

Let what you're seeing sink in. Now ask yourself how much different YOU would look if you went to an actual upscale mens' salon instead of the $12 haircut place on the corner.

Signs you are with the right girl

The end goal of dating is to find someone you truly, deeply, madly love, forever.

Things like this area a strong indicator you are with such a girl. Pay attention kids, this girl rocks.

Friend Zone

TBL wine list

Here is a list compiled for us by a wine afficionado.  They are all excellent (85+ points), and all under fifteen dollars.

This should be your go to price range and quality for a decent wine to be shared on a date. This is both for when she comes over and you both make dinner, or for you to take to her place.



These are current as of 6/9/10. They skew heavily red, but keep in mind some women strongly prefer white.  Red with dark meat, white with white meat.

Vina bisquertt syrah colchagua valley la joya reserve 2008 - 90 points - $11

Darenberg. The stump jump red south australia 2008 - 90 points - $11

Vinos de la tribu toro auroch 2006 - 90 points - $12

Charles and charles. Volume II rose columbia valley - 90 points - $12

Chateau ste. Michelle chardonnay columbia valley 2008 - 90 points - $13

Domaine des escaravailles. Cotes du rhone les sablieres 2007 - 90 points $14

Columbia crest chardonnay columbis valley grand estates 2008 - 89 points - $11

Chateau ste. Michelle. Syrah columbia valley 2006 89 points - $13

Bodega norton. Malbec mendoza barrel select 2007 - 89 points $14

Houge shiraz columbia valley 2007 - 88 points $10

St kilda shiraz south eastern australia 2008 - 87 points - $9

Montgras. Cabernet sauvignon colchagua valley reserve 2008 - 87 points $12

Finding your joy

Haven't updated the site in a while.

Been studying my ass off for engineering certs at work.

Decided to start back with something important.


You HAVE to find joy in your life. It doesn't matter what that is, but you have to be true to yourself. It doesn't have to be one thing, it can be many smaller things, but finding love and joy can't be dependent on some girl or guy. It has to be IN YOU. It has to be PART OF YOU.

When you have real inner joy, dating takes a back seat. It's merely a fun thing you have going on in addition to everything else.

We promote kiteboarding because it's so pure. Your joy can be anything. Feel free to email us with what you do and let us know.

Here's a great video.

Kiteboarding Joy

Women's Magazines

This made me laugh. Thought you'd like it too.

Credit cracked

Baby Daddy Flowchart

As a public service, here is Holy Taco's paternity flow chart.

A Strong Man

Many people believe you have to be aggressive or dominating to be an alpha, a leader, a strong man. 

This isn't always the case. Here's a truly good man who lead by example. He was a Marine sniper, and Vietnam veteran, and a good man.

From Mr. Rogers during his lifetime achievement award acceptance award speech:

He made a small bow and said into the microphone, "All of us have special ones who have loved us into being.  Would you just take, along with me, ten seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are?  Ten seconds of silence."  He then lifted his wrist, looked at the audience, looked at his watch, and said, "I'll watch the time."   There was, at first, a small whoop from the crowd, a giddy, strangled hiccup of laughter, as people realized that he wasn't kidding, that Mister Rogers was not some convenient eunuch, but rather a man, an authority figure who actually expected them to do what he asked.  And so they did.  Once second, two seconds, seven seconds -- and now the jaws clenched, and the bosoms heaved, and the mascara ran, and the tears fell upon the beglittered gathering like rain leaking down a crystal chandelier.  And Mister Rogers finally looked up from his watch and said softly, "May God be with you." to all his children.

Fred Rogers. RESPECT. 

Credit: iStig for the link

Man enough to date a tall woman?

Saw this great article over at cnn.com written by a tall woman on dating her. Tweaked it. Read below.
 
Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. One of the rarest, and most rewarding, is a tall woman.

Their long, beautiful bodies are the thing of mens' dreams and fantasies. They look good in anything, but when they dress to enhance their long legs, common men literally walk into walls and lose all ability to think or function.

It takes a lot of self confidence for a man to date a tall woman. If you don't have self confidence, you probably won't survive the first few interactions.

If you have your inner game on lock, you should truly know that most people have the same basic needs and desires. They want to have fun, feel good, and be with someone attractive that brings value to their lives.

This is no different for stunningly beautiful women.

Don't change the way you talk to someone based on how they look. Talk to them like a regular person, because that's who they are. If you are not truly self confident, then you are in for a short, miserable relationship. Tall women typically have tall friends. This includes guy friends. You are wasting your time if you keep any type of insecurity in yourself. She is with YOU, not THEM, because she likes WHO you are and how you make her FEEL .  Nothing is as big a turnoff to a girl as having to constantly reassure a weak, insecure guy.

Keep this in mind as well. When you show up with that tall, stunningly beautiful woman on your arm, everyone is thinking the same thing: "How the hell did he pull THAT?"  Everyone is going to assume it's money, or power, or whatever they want to make up. The truth is usually simply that they have fun together, and he's a confident man that understands she's a normal person who just happens to be tall.

If you don't make it a big deal, it's not a big deal.  Relax! If you want to keep around some boots to even you guys out, it should be simply as a courtesy to her to help her not feel awkward in social situations, not to calm your fragile ego. She's fine with the fact she's tall. Let it be fine for you.

As kids, tall girls get teased for their height.  Not everyone is 5'10 in the eight grade.  If you love her height, let her know! Don't make a spectacle of it. She'll love you for it.

Now get out there, and go get the tall, beautiful, girl of your dreams.  







Chances are she's waiting for you -- with her heels on.

Mailbag: I'm a girl, how can I upgrade MY dating life?

Saw a fantastic post over at reddit.com about how a woman can upgrade their dating lives. I've tweaked it a bit, but it's gold. Major props to intjpua.
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Girls have a lot of options, even if they aren't beautiful.

Note that a lot of this stuff applies to men, too.

Get fit. If you aren't in good shape, start getting there. Eat right, workout (lift weights for 20-30 minutes 3 days a week, do an hour of cardio the other days), and stop watching TV and/or sitting on the computer.. Cancel your cable. The average person spends hours watching TV every day. That shit is like crack.

Eat Better. This is actually very easy and doable. Fast food is no longer a part of your life. Period. At all. Just stop it. You should have to think back to remember the last time you ate out, and WAY back to remember the last fast food you ate. If you keep eating it, you might as well just give up, because are wasting your time. It's shit and you know it.

This goes for Soda as well. It's not a part of your life. At all. Ever. You drink water and sometimes ice tea now. If you get coffee, it's real coffee. Not frapa-mocha-whateverthefuck.  Within two to three weeks, your body will flush all the high fructose corn syrup out of your system and that stuff will start to taste like the garbage it is to you. You will drop weight like you've never seen in your life.

Lunch is now lean cuisine or Healthy choice. They are in the freezer section of the grocery store. You don't go out for lunch at work every day any more. You get your meal out of the freezer in the break room, you heat it, and eat it. You can have some pretzels or wheat thins in the afternoon for a snack.  If you are just starving the first week or two, eat one Healthy Choice (the whole meal is only 300calories) about 11am, and another around 2pm.  Within two weeks your stomach will have shrunk and one will do you. You will be dropping 10-12 pounds a month if you eat like this and work out.

Get outside for fun activities, and you'll dramatically increase your odds of meeting someone awesome.

For high quality men, fitness is a primary qualification for girls. They're in pretty good shape, eat healthy, work out, live an active lifestyle, etc. They expect the same from the girls they date. They're just not attracted to big girls, and without physical attraction, there's no chance of an intimate relationship.

If you want a quick jump start on fitness, get the P90x or Insanity cardio program DVD's. They really, really, for real work. In two months your will transform your body. And they are fun. There is zero reason to be in an expensive gym and waste time driving there, and other bullshit. Get your company computer nerd to burn some copies of it if your poor, or spend the lousy $99 and get the real deal. This will get you the body you want faster and cheaper than a personal trainer.

Get clean and neat. Whiten your teeth, get braces if you need them (Invisalign are pricey, but aren't extremely visible while you have them).  Nothing messes up a cute girl like a missing tooth or jacked up grill. It doesn't have to be perfect, just normal.

Make sure you clean up before going out, even if it's just for the grocery or drug store. There may be men there.

Dress nicely. Honestly assess the state of your clothes (check with a friend who seems to have an abundance of great men in her life, if you aren't sure what you're doing wrong or what you should do differently).

Be well-groomed. Have a nice, current, hairstyle? Many men say they prefer long hair, however a good flattering haircut is better than long hair that doesn't suit your face and body. Check with that friend again on your hair. Go to a good stylist (find one on Yelp) and pay the $75-$150 it takes to get a really good haircut (cheaper places can probably keep that haircut in shape for the following few months).

Keep your legs shaved and your lady parts ready for action; your mental state is affected by lots of little details, and if you feel "unavailable" because of hair in places you don't want hair, you'll give off that vibe in subtle ways. It will hurt your chances.

Makeup. Guys vary wildly in what kind of makeup they like on a girl. If you don't like wearing makeup, shoot for one of the guys that doesn't like a lot of makeup (we're out here; I hate big waxy looking red lips, heavy blush and eyeliner, etc.). But, even natural beauty is improved with a little makeup. If you don't know makeup, go get some lessons from the girls at the department store counter.

So, those are the "get hot" aspects of attracting men...but you can also be more assertive without being weird.
I went on a social bike ride a recently, and one girl there was absolutely awesome in her assertiveness. She'd pull up beside someone she hadn't talked to, and say, "Hey, shy guy. What's your name?" It's no coincidence that she's happily married, and the center of a huge social circle. She was a total alpha chick, and men totally dug her for it. If you see a guy you like the looks of, and he's not being very talkative, this is an awesome way to talk to him.

Hang around fun girls that aren't bitches or depressing. You are a composite of your friends. If you surround yourself with high quality, fun, active, supportive, positive energy friends, you are jumped way ahead in your quest.  These are the people you want to be around. They attractive positive energy,and  active, high quality men.

Be fun when you're out with your friends. Sit in your friends' laps, make racy jokes, smack each other on the ass, etc. There are tons of reasons for this...it's an opening for guys to start joking and talking to you, it's sexy, and turns guys on. It also keeps you in the right frame of mind for playing with guys when they come along. You want to be playfully teasing guys from the moment you start feeling some attraction. This doesn't mean the drunk party girl. You can be classy AND fun.

As a greyhound to a rabbit, guys love the chase...but you need to shake your little bunny tail now and then to keep them chasing.
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Opportunity

If you read the post below on winning back an ex, then you are probably not in the right frame of mind.

You should not be looking backwards. You should be looking AROUND.

You want happiness? GO GET IT.  Can't find a girl that makes you happy? Can't find one that's cute/smart/classy/intelligent enough? OPEN YOUR EYES. You are literally swimming in them.

Roissy recently wrote an outstanding piece on opportunity.  Read it. This is how it really works.

Opportunity article

Today we’ll accompany an average American, SWPL Six-pack, on his daily routine as he makes an effort to meet a number of attractive women that he sees.

It’s a Saturday. He gets up in the morning, showers, dresses and walks to the Starbucks down the block. While waiting at an intersection for the light to change, he notices an attractive girl standing next to him. He pivots to say something to her.

“I’ve got thirty seconds before the light changes to flirt with you. Ready?”

On the sidewalk in front of the Starbucks, he passes another attractive girl.
“Excuse me. Could you tell me where the nearest Starbucks is?”

In Starbucks, waiting in line, he speaks to the attractive girl standing ahead of him.
“Ever notice how fast the Starbucks barristas work in the morning? They must take a triple shot before their shift.”

Outside, holding his drink, he walks to the post office to drop off a letter. On the sidewalk an attractive girl walks toward him.

"Hi!”

At the post office, an attractive girl puts a letter in the mailbox.
“Be careful, that box sends all love letters to my address.”

Leaving the post office, he walks to a clothing store to make some purchases. On the walk over, nine attractive girls pass by him.
“Hi.”
“Hi!”
“Hi there.”
“Hey.”
“Good morning!”
“Excuse me. Where is the nearest dog grooming shop?”
“Hi.”
“Hi.”
“Hello!”

At the store, a girl hovers around the sunglass display.
“You’ll want sunglasses that hide which guys you’re checking out. Don’t worry, you don’t make me self-conscious.”

In the lingerie section, an attractive girl rifles through bras.
“I need to buy something for Mother’s Day. Too frilly?”

Back on the sidewalk, he stops at a street vendor to buy a warm pretzel. An attractive girl is there as well.
“I know this pretzel. I think this guy shops at Costco and marks up 1,000 percent.”

He goes home to get his frisbee. He plans to meet a friend at the local park. On the way home, five more attractive girls ping his visual field.
“Hi.”
“Hi.”
“Hi!”
“Hi.”
“Happy Saturday!”

On the walk to the park, two more attractive girls. He pretends to throw the frisbee to them.
“Catch!”
“Catch! Ohh, too slow.”

At the park, he and his friend spend more time ogling the girls than tossing the frisbee. A throw goes astray and lands near the feet of an attractive girl.
“I had my buddy throw it near you on purpose. I’m smooooooth.”

After playing frisbee, he goes to dinner at a local cafe with his friend. An attractive girl serves them.
“I heard the waitresses here are good flirters. Ok, let’s see what you’ve got.”

Dinner ends, and his friend leaves. He goes to Whole Foods to pick up some smelly cheese and grass-fed beef for the week. On the walk to Whole Foods, three attractive girls and one incredibly ugly girl pass him.
“Hi.”
“Hi!”
“Hi.”
*silence*

Loitering in the cheese section, he notices one of his exes is there. He sidles up to an attractive girl rummaging through the assortment of goat cheeses.
“Hey, I just noticed my ex is here. Right over there. I’m going to ask you a favor. Pretend you’re flirting with me so I can make her jealous. I’ll return the favor by flirting back. Trust me, you’ll thank me.”

Back at home, cutting off a hunk of cheese and downloading new Yeah Yeah Yeahs music, he makes plans to hit the local social venue with his buddies. Once arrived, he orders drinks from the attractive girl bartender.
“Don’t think this means we have something going on.”

A few hours socializing and drinking, he has met and spoken with six attractive girls. Walking home later that night, he steps next to an attractive girl at an intersection.
“I like your hat. Very trendy right now.”
He goes home to sleep, a full day behind him.
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The above did not actually happen. Or, more to the point, it is not an accurate depiction of a day in the life of the typical, average American man who wishes he could meet more women. The number of attractive girls he saw on that Saturday is realistic, but the number of those girls he spoke to is, woefully, not.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t have the wittiest opener, or the smoothest delivery. If you open your mouth and say something as benign as “Hi” to thirty-eight attractive girls on a single Saturday, you will have rocketed yourself ahead of 99% of men who passed by those same girls and said nothing. You would have brought yourself closer to sex with at least one of those girls that wouldn’t have been the case had you walked by them silently, cursing your inaction once the moment evaporated.

Now add in a little game. You’ve just hurdled 99.9% of men who pass by those girls without muttering a word on that typical, “boring” Saturday.

Opportunity is everywhere for those with the eyes to see.

Mailbag: Winning back an Ex

We get a lot of mail here at TBL.

Some of the most common are from men looking to get back an ex.  Can it be done? Usually. Should it be done? No.

I know you're special, and she's special, and you guys had something more amazing than anyone else ever has or will.

After you've broken up, you are both different people. You may not be able to tell, but you are.

You are still in love with the person you fell in love with. She's not that person anymore. Neither are you.

If you haven't gone through this process enough to understand the above as truth, then you'll unfortunately have to so that you can mature emotionally as a man.

So, here's the process that actually works. It will hurt. You will grow. Be careful what you wish for.


1) Let them go

2) Start going out and making new friends

3) Completely cut contact. No helping, or checking on them, or anything. Cold complete turkey

4) Improve yourself.

A) Start hitting the gym. When you start getting in shape, it pumps endorphins into your body, making you happier and a cooler person to be around

B) Get outside. Force yourself to go out at LEAST three times a week. Go get a beer. Go dancing. Go to the lake. Walk your dog at the dog park.

C) CALL (don't text) every friend you have and invite them out to do something. See what they are up to. Help them out with something. Go over their house. DON'T piss and moan and talk about your ex. Talk about anything else.

D) Go buy some new clothes. If you've been in a relationship for a long time, you are out of style. Yes, you.

E) If you're a guy, check out some dating websites to get your game back in tune.

F) When you haven't talked to your ex in a couple months, they WILL text you and wonder why you haven't called them. This is what you want. Just play it cool and have a lot going on. Don't PRETEND and bullshit having a lot going on, ACTUALLY for real have a lot going on. This is the most attractive possible thing you can do.

G) Be careful what you wish for. The first day or two of your ex wanting you back will make you feel good and like an answer to a prayer. Day three will remind you why you broke up. By the end of week one with them back you'll remember allllll their old bullshit that drove you nuts. If you have sex, it'll be great, but not as great because you'll be thinking about what everything means. Is this gonna work? What did they say to wreck you to their fam/friends/social circle? You'll more than likely wonder what the hell you are thinking.

You will probably dump them.

Good luck. :)

Men's Suits for Under a Thousand

Every man over the age of twenty-one should own a suit. A good one.

We all have the ill fitting horror that your mom took you shopping for so you could go to that one thing. Burn it. Or better yet, donate it.

You don't have to be a millionaire to look like one.

Here are some looks you can build that won't break the bank, but will catapult you forward in your career and self confidence.  A suit is something you have to invest in.

New York Times Article on Stylish, Inexpensive Suits

Remember, when in doubt when comes to men's fashion, go with classic over trendy.

And don't forget the Shoes

There's a reason Frank still looks good.
 

Improving your life

Improving your life has to be a total effort.

Learning to meet people isn't enough. You have to improve who you are.  This includes changing what you do.

Women CRAVE a man that is active and outdoors. They want to be that themselves, so they are looking for a man who lives that lifestyle and will bring them into that world.

You want to be doing things that are fresh and exciting and will make that girl "God, I can't WAIT to tell my girlfriends I met this cool guy that's into "insert active lifestyle activities here".

One of the most fun, exhilarating things you can get into is the new sport of kitesurfing.  Not only is it reasonably priced to get into ($1200-1500ish for full size kitesurfing. $150ish for trainer kites, learning), it's also something you'll truly love and have a passion for.

It's win/win on a number of levels.

A) You are out in the sun getting a tan

B) You are outside

C) You are surrounded by other healthy, active guys. This means instant social circle.

D) You aren't sitting around shitty gas stations with the bike or car club.

E)  You are teaching her something, and bringing her into a world she's never experienced.

F) It's hardcore cardio, which means you're getting into and maintaing great shape.

G) You get in touch with nature and yourself. It's all on you. Succeed or fail, crash hard, or touch the face of God.

H) Make this your world. Kitesurfing


You don't have to live somewhere tropical. We live in the middle of Oklahoma City, and kite surf at the city lake. It's AMAZING and there are thousands of people there every nice day watching and wishing they were flying with us.

If you can't afford to go full pop into it, go order a two meter trainer kite and take it to the park/lake. As you learn to fly it, and start having fun with it, you'll notice people coming up and opening YOU. Girls, guys, families, everyone. It's amazing to watch these fly, and everyone (including beautiful, fit, outdoorsy girls) will want to learn.

It's up to YOU to decide who to have friendly conversations with, and who to spend the afternoon teaching.

AMOG basics

If you are going out a lot, you'll sooner or later have to deal with AMOGs . It stands for "Alpha Male Other Guy". These guys attempt to bully or out Alpha you in an attempt to show dominance, and therefore social value.

This is actually a GOOD thing because it means you are projecting high enough value to be a threat to other Alphas for competition for the highest value women. They are testing you to see if you really ARE an alpha, or a faker.  Women will watch these interactions with GREAT interest. Not just your girl, but every girl in the room. Your girl will tell her girlfriends the next day about the interaction, win or lose.

You should already be an Alpha yourself (or working on it in the form of inner game, body language, confidence, and lifestyle), so most of the time they will recognize that value and either partner up with you, or even qualify themselves TO you. This is a GREAT gauge of how good your body language is. If they are trying to punk you, you're body language conveys that you are of lower value. If they try to qualify to you, they believe you to be of equal or higher value. You're body language is on lock.

If you catch them qualifying to you, simply friend them and ignore. If they are lame, ignore them so you don't lower your own value.

Many articles have been written on anti-AMOG tactics. I won't cover all of them, look them up.  Here are some basics though that will cover 95% of what you'll see in real life.


When in doubt, ignore if possible, then move away.

If they are up in your shit, friend them, then ignore.

If you can't ignore them, keep excluding them from the conversation. Act like they didn't even say anything, start talking about other stuff while they are still talking, etc. Try to not acknowledge anything. Never laugh at anything they say. The second you acknowledge them, you are bringing their value up to the same level as yours.

If at all possible, be having more fun than them.

Confronting is almost always lose lose. (The exception is to out AMOG the AMOG before he gets very far by bringing 10x the energy level to the interaction.) Here's an exchange that happened at a surf spot where a guy was standing a little too close to TN's girl this weekend.

RandomDood: "Hey girl, chatty chat lame chat."

TN: (Catches Dood about to run game because TN's game is airtight. Walks up to RD fast. REAL fast. Big smile. Laser beam eye contact on Dood.) "I fucking LOVE your bike. That is a SICK fucking bike. God DAMN you are a cool motherfucker." (BIG friendly slap on back. Standing CLOSE. REAL CLOSE.)

Randomdood: (shocked, not prepared for the energy difference TN just brought.) "Um, oh, yeah. It's coo.."

TN: (Cutting him off) "No, YOU'RE fucking cool. Come hang out with us any time." (Still big smile)

Randomdood: (Backs WAY up off TN's girl. Catches the implied drift. Realizes he's just been handed his hat.)

TN's Girl: :) (Realizes what just happened, and the fact that she's dating the REAL alpha.)

Outsmarting them verbally to their face to "win" only happens in movies and in nerds' minds. Remember, movies are written by nerdy screenwriters. Notice TN handled everything with energy and body language.

Roosh over at Rooshv.com wrote the quickest, cleanest tactic I've ever seen if you get caught already in a verbal joust and need a quick out. Here it is, paraphrased from memory out of his outstanding book "Bang".

Randomdood: (Walks up into Roosh's set and starts gaming the girl Roosh has already been gaming for twenty minutes.) "Hey!! What's going on over here? Damn, you're cute."

Roosh: "Wait. (Points at girl) Do you like her?"
*Note: The guy has just been called out. He really only has two choices.
A) He says "Um Yeah." This automatically throws up her creeper screen and disqualifies him because remember that Attraction = Not conveying interest. Also, he's still just a random dood. Why would he like her other than looks?
B) He says "No, I'm just out having fun, etc, etc, blah blah". At this point he's already put his dick in a box and he's D-O-N-E.
Regardless of what he says you already have hand, so you simply have to hand him his hat.

Roosh: "That's cool. Well, there are plenty of cute girls here. Good luck brother, Don't give up!!"



If you find yourself getting AMOG'd a lot, then you are drawing it to yourself. I can count on one hand the number of AMOG situations I've dealt with in ten years of going out.

If a guy is trying to AMOG you, out to steal your girl, then some basics will help. The easiest way is to look up AMOG on Youtube. There are some great tutorials on body language to cut them out in a social setting.

Most of the time all you have to do is turn your girl a bit or pull her to the side and face both of your backs to them.
If they are still trying to work in or buy her drinks, then simply grab your girl by BOTH hands and pull her away physically to another location "Hey, I want to show you something cool." When you get her away, say "Here's the something cool, me." Then tickle her and continue gaming.

If you are dealing with a drunk asshole, it's always lose lose. If you confront them, you lose because you're in a fight. If you try a battle of wits, etc, you lose before you've even opened your mouth because you're acknowledging them as an equal. The best course of action is to "girl code" your girl by rolling your eyes and smiling a bit in a "wow, what a drunk idiot" way and/or mouthing the word "creepy" or "creeper" if you can get away with it.

Always be moving her away from the negative vibes of an AMOG.

Remember, Pickup, at it's core, boils down to this:

Become an expert in how to feel good.

Anything that isn't good feelings, is not moving you in a positive direction with the girl.

How to knock a shit test out of the park

Shit Test:
A shit test is when a woman gives a guy a hard time, usually for the purpose of seeing how he will react. Because women (especially attractive women) are hit on all the time, they have developed behaviors that quickly disqualify potential suitors that are not of a high enough value for her. The shit test is one way to do this. Shit tests can be challenges, IODs or reframes.


Saw this exchange between one of our students and a girl recently. He was playing cheesy pickup line anti-game game.  The way it was handled was not only excellent, but spiked her attraction enough for them to be making out an hour later.

Him:  "If I told you you had a nice body, would you hold it against me?"

Her:  "I have a Taser in my purse. I can hold that against you."

Him: (bare ghost of a smirk. Laserbeam eye contact) "I sensing some electricity between us."

Her: "Really? I'm sensing resistance."

Him: "We're past that. Now there's definately a spark."


You'll notice that she was shit testing him for intelligence. Most of the time shit tests fall in the realm of social intuition and self confidence. When you are picking up top tier girls, remember that a good number of them are not only beautiful, but extremely intelligent and educated. Bring your "A" game.

Lazy man's guide to bagging tens

So you just found out about game.

You don't have time to actually read anything or study pickup at all like the successful guys. You're going out TONIGHT and want to bag some TENS baby.

Luckily, we have just the solution.

Step One: Visualize the quality of girls you want

Step Two: Visualize the girls you are currently getting

Step Three: Utilize your trusty and TBL approved "Ten bagging Tool"

Step Four: Enjoy!!

Note:  This can also be used to upgrade existing wives/girlfriends.

How to pick up asian girls, by an asian girl

Every guy has a wish list type of girl. Some have a soft spot for redheads. Some guys like blondes.

A whole lot of guys like Asian girls. A whole lot of guys have no idea how to attract them.

Here's a brief how-to written by a cute North American one:

Seeing as how I'm an Asian girl, I can think of a few things compiled from my own and friends' preferences.

Standoffish might mean shy, which virtually every Asian girl I've met is. You must persist, but NEVER appear desperate.

This is the first rule of approaching Asian women.  Hear me out. It may seem racist, but what I am about to tell you is true.  Most Asian women expect the man to do EVERYTHING.  They may want equal rights blah blah... but they expect the man to do all the approaching, all the prompting, and pay for the dates unless otherwise specified.  If the girl is standoffish, she may simply have nothing to say to you because she is conditioned to be shy and demure.  You must become smooth.

Second, there are two types of Asian girls:

They either like girly men, or manly men.  This is pretty much hit or miss... though the majority go for the girly men, therefore you will make a better first impression if you:

1. Dress well
2. Are well groomed

Emphasize eyebrows. You may have to pluck.
If you have acne, get something to clear it up.

Dressing well is a sign of wealth.  This is extremely important to Asians.  You may sometimes see retarded Asian males wearing gangsta clothing.  This is fail.  You should wear something that a woman would pick out for you. Something a bit dressy, something that screams straight A student.

Third, realize that Asian girls generally love tall white guys.  If you look good, and are hitting on them they will probably be flattered.  Be confident. Don't be cocky unless you can still be charming.

Fourth, avoid the "can you translate this for me" approach.  If you guess the wrong language, it is an automatic turn off.  If you are obviously lying, you will just look dumb.

Don't approach them using some kind of Asian pretense.  Pretend you don't notice they are Asian.

BE POLITE.  Politeness is a huge + (for the majority of Asian girls).  Regardless of what they say, courtesy is ingrained in the North American Asians just as much as Asians straight from Asia.  They will see politeness as a sign of respect... unless they have completely rebelled against their culture.  This will manifest in heavy makeup and slutty clothing.  Even then, politeness is still a good bet, as their subconscious desire may conflict with the conscious claim of the Asian woman.

Fifth:  There is a 99.9% chance that the Asian girl you are looking at has been exposed to some type of Asian romance drama.  This is probably the most irritating thing about Asian girls.  In these dramas, people do weird things for no reason and the relationships rarely make sense.  However, there is emphasis on 'significant acts' and "everlasting love".

This means that if you give a girl a token of your affection such as a ring, a small drawing you made, or a hair clip you think she'd like...even if she doesn't like it, it's going to be a plus one.  If you give her something on your first meeting, its a WTF+1.  Give her a flower and ask her to dance.  Suddenly she has stepped into a Korean drama dream world which is equivalent to a Disney tale.

Gender English

What you say vs. what you mean.

The Natural

The Natural wrote down a few thoughts that bear posting.

You hear about true naturals a lot in pickup. You wonder what makes them a "natural" when social vibing and instinct is so tough for you.  Naturals understand basic things about interacting with people and have completely internalized them. You can see that they are basic but true. Most core truths are.

Sometimes it's the basics that you have to remind yourself of:

Give examples of  how you want to be treated. How can someone know if you're even capable of showing compassion if you, yourself, don't show compassion to others?

To make friends all one has to do is show an example of how you want to be treated.

You make friends the same way you make lovers.  Treat someone you want contact with the same way you, yourself, would want to be treated.

If you're a guy and you want to show a girl you care about her, then you show a soft, loving, caring, and compassionate side of yourself.

We all have different feelings inside of us and they are closely related to how we treat others.

The better you treat others, the better you yourself feel.

Say what you mean.

Do not lie just to spare feelings.

It's better not to speak if only bad will be the end result.

Why bring bad when the choice to do right is for the good of all.

To hate others is keeping in the good.  Let out the positive and reinforcing words into the world, or negativity will come in to replace the good.

Let your light shine, and bring peace and happiness.

Evil is only present when good is not around.

Positivity repels Evil.

The light is the only thing that brings clarity to see what is happening.

Be cool to others instead of just trying to piss people off.

Because that's just not cool motherfuckers! xx

Note: These are actual pictures of TN flying a 2meter at Kite point, Lake Hefner (Oklahoma City) 3-29-10. The best things in life are simple and free.

Older Guys with Style

We get a lot of older guys wanting to get back into the dating game.

One of the biggest problems most of them have is they are stuck in their comfortable fashion of ten to twenty years ago.

Here are some helpful style ideas from guys that are older but with a sense of fashion. 






Most of these are found over on thesartorialist.blogspot.com

How things really work

Pickup is a really tough thing to swallow.

Think about what you're REALLY telling a guy.

A) 10% of the guys have been banging 90% of the women your entire life and you haven't been in the 10%

B) Everything that everyone, including movies, culture, your parents, your friends, everyone you've ever known, including your girlfriends, has been wrong/bullshit.
C) All those times your girl left you or fucked some other guy it's been EASY for those guys simply because they had a little pickup knowledge, or they just naturally figured it out as a kid.

D) Everything you've been working for your entire life.. cars/house/success/money/life has been a waste of time because you can get the girl of your dreams and keep her happy with just some knowledge of how women actually work.

E) You are a chump. Women, and those 10% of men, know it and have always known it.

This is a TOUGH motherfucking pill to swallow.

The only thing that makes it worse is going out in the field and testing this stuff and getting girls, and nailing them on the same night, and their girlfriends. While their so sad nice guy ex bf or bf is texting his I love you sooo much messages to her. The same messages you've sent plenty of. Then it dawns on you what your ex gf's were REALLY doing while you were sending them and boo hooing. Once you've gotten over that shock, the shades are lifted from your eyes, and you're finally at one with how things REALLY work. Some men get to work and finally get their lives right. Some men run screaming in pure revulsion from the horror of the above realizations.
The haters are mostly guys who want to keep believing what the television and their mom told them, to just "be yourself" and everyone will have a happy ending. They'll get what they always got, and never understand the truth.
They'll keep hating "those fag jocks, man. They're fucking assholes. I don't understand why she's WITH those guys". The chumps will never get in the gym for six months, learn some pickup, and go GET the dreamgirl. They'll keep hoping for miracles, hating the successful guys, and shit talking anyone who points out the tested, verified, reproducable results that pickup is comprised of.

When the early astronomers, "Galileo, Copernicus, etc", first started telling people that the Earth went around the Sun, the religeous people tried to silence, then kill them. The astronomers were scientists though, and said "I don't care if it shatters your world, your belief system, or your God. This is how shit REALLY works."

Pickup: This is how shit REALLY works.

What a married man really wants

So you've done it. You've gamed your ass off, became an alpha, found the girl. Married the girl.

You've got the house, the kids, the job, and the awesome wife who you (omg) actually truly love.

Now what?

Well, the best thing is, it's up to you.  But. Even if everything is on track and you're really truly digging your kids and love your wife, it's easy to fall into a pattern.

Falling into a pattern is easy to do. It's your job to break it up so it doesn't become one.  This goes not only for taking care of yourself with exercise and adventures, but also in keeping your relationship in the proper man/woman perspective.

No girl wants to spend her life with some boring old dude, so don't become that.

If you want more sex, make it happen. If you want a sloppy blowjob for father's day, don't ask for clothes or a new set of socket wrenches. You are the man and part of that is letting her know what you really want.

Suffering because you don't get what you want makes you resent her. If she's great enough to marry, she's great enough to not deserve your resentment. She deserves betterafraid to ask than a pissy, bitch ass husband that is for what he REALLY WANTS.

Here's one man's Fathers day request:

Every year you ask what I want for Father's Day with the kids (conveniently?) sitting right in front of us, and every year I provide G-rated suggestions because (call me a prude) its sorta not appropriate to ask for sexual favors in front of the kids. So in the off chance you're reading the rants or looking for a poolboy, even though we don't have a pool, here's what I really want:

I want to wake up to you sucking my cock. Defined, this means that I'm asleep and you go down on me while I'm asleep, not after 45 minutes of me pretending to be asleep and dreaming of winning the blow job lottery. Please skip the requisite if-I-have-to sigh and eye rolling for one day.

I want a breakfast including eggs, bacon, and fresh fruit. No carb-packed wheat-byproducts, nothing frozen, nothing out of a box, and especially nothing in individually wrapped servings.

I want to have a fun day doing anything except what is on the honey-do list. Anything on the do-honey list is perfectly OK.

Examples:
Giving me grief while watching Nascar Sunday is not a good idea.
Giving me head while watching Nascar Sunday is a great idea.
Asking me to dig some holes in the backyard is not a good idea.
Asking me to plug your hole in your backdoor is a great idea.
Taking the kids out for a while and letting me nap would be nice.
Taking my cock out and sucking it after my nap would be nicer.

For dinner, I want a slab of red meat. Fresh, premium, not shrink wrapped. BBQ'd, not nuked or broiled. Rare. So rare a good veterinarian can revive it. A tall, cold beer. And fresh vegetables on the side, although it's unlikely I'll eat them, so I don't know why I bothered mentioning them.

After the kiddies are asleep, I want sex. Uninhibited, sweaty, porn star sex. Gone for the night is the bored housewife in boring clothes reading a boring book, I am going to be the dominant male and you to be my submissive anything-to-please-daddy fuck-slut.

I want you wearing something erotic. Defined, 'erotic' includes leather, lace, high heels, crotchless, racy, etc. 'Erotic' probably includes that thing you bought for Valentines Day two years ago that never made it out of the drawer. 'Erotic' does not include baggy jammies, grandma underwear, furry slippers, sweatpants, sweatshirts, sweatsocks, or the asexual garments you wear the other 364 days.

I want my cock sucked again, deep throated, like you can't get enough, and when I cum, I want you to savor it like it's Godiva white chocolate. Don't give me that 'it tastes funny'crap; lick it up and suck it up and smile all the way.

I want you fucking me like its the last dick you'll be getting for a while. Acceptable positions are on your knees, on top, doggie style, bent over, hanging from the ceiling, pretty much anything except missionary on the bed. Slap your ass cheeks, rub your clit, pinch your nipples, talk dirty, suck me often, and most importantly, finger your ass. Finger your ass until its ready for my cock, then beg for my cock up your ass and fuck it like you did with your pussy.

When I cum, yes, I'm cumming in your ass. I don't care if you get the runs tomorrow, I am cumming in your ass. Because it feels great. And then I'll fuck your ass until I'm limp and resigned to waiting another 365 days to tap your ass again.

Because Dear Wife, it's Father's Day, my day, and that's what I really want.

99 Problems

Benjamin Franklin, our ambassador to France in the 1700's, had put on some weight since his last visit.

A woman said to him "Benjamin! What would you say if that belly was on a woman?"

He smiled politely and replied "Madam, twenty minutes ago this belly WAS on a woman."


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Are people getting more attractive?

You've heard it a million times before. "I wish girls looked like that when I was that age."

You've heard it from thirty year old guys and seventy year old guys.

Are people in fact getting more attractive?   Let's take a look.

Here's a pic of an average office party with regular people from the twenties.

We've noted most of the dating age people with attraction scores based on the most common 1-10 scale.  Zero is a monster, five an average person, seven attractive with no obvious physical flaws (solid gf/bf material for most people), and ten being a model.

 

Note that the AVERAGE attractiveness in the room is 6.4.  

Now let's take a look at a modern office party:

Now we find that the average is 5.78.

So are people really getting more attractive, or are there simply so many more people in the population that the rare models/tens are a larger group of people, of which there are now plenty to fill up all the advertising and popular programming you watch?  

The numbers are almost identical if you round them out.  If you're at a bar or club, there will always tend to be more attractive people because as a rule the least attractive people don't feel comfortable in a place that is so looks conscious.

So when you're feeling like you're the ugliest person in the world, remember that YOU are the majority. This means that MOST girls are perfectly in your league.  The further you reach up out of your league, the tighter your game has to be.  

 - Bon